So I thought I use this as a way of expressing myself before I burst! My husband and I have been separated since 10th March and I had always hoped we would sort it out. He suffers with depression, it’s been a long battle, which gets worse when he goes on drinking binges. The night I decided enough was enough, he threw a knife at me, and squashed toast in my face in front of the kids. This night was a particularly awful night, he was drunk again and came home ready to start a fight. By no means am I innocent, I fought back not in front of the kids. That was the night I gave him a choice, he leaves and gets help or he stays and the kids and I would leave. He left. I have had a barrage of abuse, guilt trips but I know I made the right decision. Please do not misunderstand me he was always a fantastic father but the depression made him not such a good one and I thought the space would give him a wake up call. It hasn’t so much and about a month after leaving home, I found out he has always been messaging inappropriately, when I say inappropriately I mean messaging other women that a married man should not be messaging. I am now being called unsupportive and heartless about his depression. I’ve tried to be there but I couldn’t help him, the knife was the straw the broke the camels back and I had to protect the kids. It makes me physically sick they witnessed this. Now I’m in limbo, he says he’s wants to come home but I know he’s been up to all sorts which he doesn’t know I know. He has had 3 therapy sessions and says he’s much better, do I let him back? Will he change? What’s best for the kids? Any suggestions or ideas would be greatly appreciated because I’m no mans land do I believe he’s changed, if I don’t let him home am I not being supportive with his depression. The kids are my priority and to think we could go back to that fills me with dread!
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