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So the CSA got their act togather, guess what he has to pay... go on, guess.. I bet you can't guess..

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MascaraOHara · 03/07/2007 22:19

he has to pay the grand total of £2.50 per week + 50p arrears for the ~3k he owes.

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sniff · 03/07/2007 22:20

thats insulting

I am disgusted reading that on your behalf

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LadyTophamHatt · 03/07/2007 22:20
Shock
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LadyTophamHatt · 03/07/2007 22:21

wankers

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Twinklemegan · 03/07/2007 22:21

I thought there was a minimum of £5. That's what my DH was told. He's earning on average around £10 a week at the moment (very little work around for his business) and still has to pay £5.

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MascaraOHara · 03/07/2007 22:22

£5 is split across children. as is the £1 for arrears. LMAO

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wishingfourgotone · 03/07/2007 22:23

wow they stupid my moms ex was allowed to pay £1.50 a week he spent more on fags!

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MascaraOHara · 03/07/2007 22:23

£3 a week.. still she can have a happy meal and mcflurry on him (I think)

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MamaGroundskeeperWillie · 03/07/2007 22:23

How ridiculous

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MascaraOHara · 03/07/2007 22:23

(that was a joke btw)

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LadyTophamHatt · 03/07/2007 22:24

I'd tell them to stick up there arses....

it s an insult.

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Twinklemegan · 03/07/2007 22:24

So does he have other children he doesn't live with? Or does he have one of his own? I sympathise with you, but I'm interested as for us it's £5 a week plus £5 a week arrears (for their cock ups) which basically wipes out anything DH can bring in (he's a SAHD - we can't afford full time childcare). Most of the time I'm paying it

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iota · 03/07/2007 22:24

MOH - that's not much to last a growing 5 yr old for a week

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MascaraOHara · 03/07/2007 22:26

He has another that he has no contact with. Although the two children have contact which is nice.

I think it's really sad. Also found out he has avoided paying whilst on benefits before by signing on then working then signing on so that the IR they never have a chance to process the paperwork.

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Aitch · 03/07/2007 22:26

gawd. that is keeeeeerrrrap.

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Twinklemegan · 03/07/2007 22:29

The sad thing is that people who want to can play the system like there's no tomorrow. But it always, always catches and screws people who are trying their best to do the right thing. double

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MascaraOHara · 03/07/2007 22:32

they get the ones who are willing to pay as they are easy targets imvho. they need to bump up their crappola figures anyway they can

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Twinklemegan · 03/07/2007 22:33

So true.

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MascaraOHara · 03/07/2007 22:40

so wrong though. no b'day card again this year

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SurferRosa · 04/07/2007 07:19

I found out DS1's dad was paying £11.50 a week last year. They wrote to tell me, god knows why. I'd already told them he earns around £500 a week. But they preferred to listen to his version (£100).
Such a cock.

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lulumama · 04/07/2007 07:23

pathetic

disgusting

what is wrong with these men anyway, that they have to be chased to support their children and then lie about their incomes to avoid supporting them?

on your behalf

£10 a month..don;t spend it all at once

and grrrrrrrrrrr


wish someone sympathetic could infiltrate the CSA and change all these nonsensical payments to something decent!

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MascaraOHara · 04/07/2007 09:16

I am obviously living on another planet I honestly didn't think it was possible to raise a child and provide for all her needs with £24 a month (assuming he's paying half and I'm paying the other half). Brill, good job she has packed lunch as school dinners cost around £32 a month

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glitterfairy · 04/07/2007 09:22

How utterly disgusting. I ahve currently atrted the whole awful process once more after X agreed a payment wiht the CSA after a year of being chased and so far hasnt paid the amount agreed once.

I really feel for you. In the meantime how on earth do they think these kids will survive?

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macdoodle · 04/07/2007 11:01

I am finding this thread interesting and really feel for you guys ...can I just air another side (take into account I am not having a go in ANY way at you guys I admire you all...)....
My (D)H and I are seperated after his cheating affair - we have one DD age 5 and a 2nd DC due in Dec - I am main breadwinner I have a good job with a good income (which I have worked very hard for and work hard at work but I love my job and a very grateful that I am so lucky)....before we split (D)H started a business which I bankrolled essentially and continue to prop up as needed - we own a flat which he lives in as well as our house which me and DD live in - his business income does NOT cover his living expenses and the shops overheads so essentially his income is less than nil - but he maintains his lifestyle (nice car nice flat out drinking) thanks to me (yes stupid me I know but I am working on it but also don't want to everything to be lost because of his stupidity this was future for our DC and I would like to see how much of it we can maintain..)...Now the crunch he got OW pregnant - she has more or less admitted she got pregnant on purpose - I have NO doubt she is bunny boiler in extreme and totally obsessed with him she thought he would leave me for good and play happy families with her and her DC (well it hasn't and not going to)...she is old enough to know better (late 20's I am 36 he is 40)...she doesn't work has no training so no prospects and was living with her parents...so I have no idea how she plans to support her DC and TBH I really don't care - she is an adult she planned this and it backfired big time.....my (D)H wants to "do the right thing" he says...but any money he would give her voluntarily will be MINE (does anyone really think I should support his tart and her child although I feel sorry for her poor kid I don't for her and this would just be step to far for me..)
Through CSA really his income is very low and TBH if she puts in CSA claim so will I as again ay money he gives her will have to come from shop profits which again is REALLY my money......so although we have good life it is my money and hard work and I really cannot see she is enititled to any of my hard earned money and (D)H has nothing that is his alone .......

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BBBleedingGumsMurphy · 04/07/2007 11:02

ffs!

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Ulysees · 04/07/2007 11:03

Oh that's heartbreaking hun Got csa interview at mine tomorrow.

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