Exdp and I separated in oct 12. We have two dc. 7 & 2.
Ex saw the children every 4/5 weeks. His choice not mine. No.phone contact in between.
He has a new partner who he says he has been with for a year though I think it is less than that. (He text me in sept to say he'd met someone and was in love .
Last week I asked him if he was off work at the weekend would he like the dc. Me instigating contact again. He said yes he would take them out to the park and then to a relatives. I was fine with this. Dc were excited.
I asked if he would send me a pic of them at the park. He did. Only they weren't at the park he'd taken them to his house and introduced them to his gf without me knowing. .I didn't even know the girls name until Saturday. I have no idea where they live.
I am not jealous of them. I ended the relationship for a number of reasons and I am.much happier. I am glad he has found someone and is happy but what I don't like is that he lied to me. I just think maybe he should have asked me and we should have discussed it first.
I think he should spend time seeing the dc on his own because up until now he has only asked to see them once a month. It is only in the last two months dc1 has agreed to see him again. There waa a period of time where she wouldn't see him despite my encouragement.
I accept that the dc will one day meet his gf. I have no objection to this but I would like to meet her too and I think he needs to repair his relationship with dc1 first.
Please dont have a go at me over this. Its not helpful and im finding it all emotionally exhausting.
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Daisypops · 31/01/2014 21:49
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