Hi,
A little bit of back ground from a lurker and the hope of some advice.
Background:
Ex and I split 3 years ago. Have had an informal agreement between us since then to split contact on a 3 day rotation. We live 5 minutes away at the opposite ends of the same (long) road. History of emotional abuse and minimal physical during the relationship.
My daughter rarely wants to go to Daddy's but usually with some cajoling/encouragement does go and seems, on the whole to be ok while she's there.
The issue is that twice recently, on swaps, my ex has physically pushed me out of the house. On both occasions they were during a heated discussion, both started by him and both in front of my daughter. On both occasions I was trying to calm things down and leave things nicely (for daughter's sake) when he pushed me out the house. Today, it was with such force that I landed on the pavement, hitting my head. My daughter saw this and was concerned, I managed, on the whole to shake it off as Mummy falling over but from the questions she's asked today I think she's very much aware that it wasn't that.
I'm not really sure what else to say. I don't feel like she should go back, I can't be sure of her safety. I know she doesn't want to go back, but at the same time she's 5 so how much do I take from her opinion on things? I've explained what she saw today as minimally as possible, without dwelling on it, answering her questions with as little detail and as factually as possible.
What should I be doing? What position would I be in if I decided to move away? This is feeling very tempting to me at the moment, school and job disruption aside. I know this is because I'd rather not have to deal with the situation he's put us in. I know it's a silly thing to think but I just wish it hadn't happened.
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BlueistheColourIthink · 03/07/2011 22:35
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