This is gonna be a long one, so I'm sorry in advance.
I'm a physical female, identify trans agender, which means I don't feel I'm a man or a woman. I am the sole wage earner, married to a male for over 10 years, have family home, pets etc.
I have never been traditionally sexual/sensual and have always been more intellectual. Any body stuff bothers me, to be honest.
I had my DS 7 years ago. I had a number of mental and physical issues during pregnancy, birth and postpartum. Physically traumatic birth, cuts, scars, infections, you name it.
Where previously I put up with sex and other intimacy (cuddles, kisses) now even the thought makes me deeply uncomfortable. I'm also on medication for anxiety. I consider myself asexual now, where before I guess I'd just have said I had a very low sex drive.
My DH is generally very supportive but the idea that he's never going to have sex or intimacy again is obviously making him irritable and upset. He seems to feel that I "just need my sensuality reawakening". I even went to a sex therapist and she asked me why i wanted help. The only reason could give was that my husband wanted sex and i didn't.
How do i explain that i don't have a sexual side anymore? That I don't need "fixing", that just because I dont want sex doesn't mean I'm broken. He just keeps coming back to "you were sexual before".
I'm beginning to hate him for it. Can anyone help, offer an opinion?
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Help. Asexual trans parent starting to hate DH
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Heckyes · 06/11/2017 20:22
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