My friend's wife decided she didn't want to be married any more in August this year and he was forced to move out. He has got a flat, works full time (12hr shifts) and has an agreement with her about when he sees their children who are aged 2 and 3.
He pays as much as he can afford towards the children, it's an informal agreement and he financially cannot afford to pay any more. He would not be able to pay her what the CSA suggests is the right amount.
Currently, she uses this to her advantage it seems: she asks him to take the children at the drop of a hat and if he can't because he's working she plays the 'you would if you loved them' card. She demands money off him, £80 here, £50 there on top of what he already pays her. He does it because he wants to keep on her good side but she's really got him by the short and curlies. She knows she has him cornered because if he doesn't agree with her demands she threatens going to the CSA.
When he makes these extra payments it means he can't afford heating, or his council tax, or petrol for work and his parents have to fork out.
I'm heart broken for him. He loves his children dearly, he loved his wife and wanted the marriage. It was her who gave up and is making his life an anxiety-riddled nightmare at every turn.
Does anybody know where he can get advice on any of this? Does he have any rights? Can he turn to anyone? Is she allowed to behave like this? Is there anything I can possibly do to help him?
Any advice would be hugely appreciated.
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Does the husband have any rights regarding children and payments?
1wokeuplikethis · 04/12/2014 12:43
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