I am in an impossible situation & desperately need legal advice.
I have become disabled & am trying to manage my condition & stop it deteriorating.
I just cannot survive on the direct payments hours/ money the council is giving. Literally. I am fighting a losing battle & can't hold a life together any more, for me or Ds (2.5 yrs).
And they have me over a barrel threatening to get children's services involved, or if things are that bad I have to agree my child is at risk of neglect from me, or that it will be good for me for them to take him into care.
Problem is that the hours are not enough either in Time coverage for me, but also just in terms of getting the job done even within shorter hrs.
They gave me direct payments as the council themselves could not find suitable care for me, as their agencies are only insured for adult care & they cannot help me parent Leo or give me respite by taking care of him alot through the day.
I have spent £100s on trying to find someone & they just leave after a week / couple of weeks as the work is awful & my house is unsuitable & they hate working there. They are also not suitable for the job as its an amalgam of nanny/ housekeeper/ cleaner/ carer/ family support ... 11 hrs a day.
New carer has left without notice after two weeks, saying its too much work & not enough pay - fair enough (true actually), but she told me late sat evening when she was due in at 8am Sunday, which landed me in total crisis. Thanks :(
So now Ds has to go away again as I cannot take care of him on my own, (stays with my estranged parents who wont let me see him if they have him, & wont help me other than take him). I am hopeless & heart broken.
Bottom line is I cannot get a carer as the job is impossible, the council are pretending that it's ok they've given me 30 less hours than they originally said I needed (after my condition deteriorated lots as I wasn't getting enough help before that even). They are caught up in their own processes & budget plans, & won't even engage with the fact that as they are failing to support me enough, its driving me & my Ds into a tragedy.
All I do when carers are here is lie in bed & try to galvanize self to do everything that needs doing when they aren't here. I cannot start to manage my condition, I cannot change my awful gp, attend appointments, do daily Physio, or anything that will help me break this downwards spiral, because I have to over extert & hurt myself every single day.
When I ask the council for help, they refuse to even accept the problem. If I tell them a bit about how much I am struggling they threaten me with 'getting childrens services involved'.
They are giving me alot of hours already, but because it's taken every last ounce of health to get them (jumping hoops all the way), I just can't do it on less than them meeting all my needs, cos they are really needs, not wants as the social workers boss kindly suggested.
I can't do it anymore. All I am doing is failing slower, dying a slow long drawn out death instead of a quick one. I always have a plan, & push forwards, but this time I have nothing.
I can't see a way out. It's either plead for help & have Ds taken away from me, or... Or what? I don't know.
Any way legislation can help me? Do ss have to help me? Or can they take Ds away & then send their agency carers in for me? Oh my poor poor baby. I am living in hell.
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Desperate - need advice about adult social services duty to support my needs
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DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved · 09/10/2012 00:25
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