Hi all,
Hope everyone is well and moving along nicely at whatever stages you are at, as there are so many!
My husband and I have decided we will start IVF this year. I just don't know who to tell though. I feel a bit out of order not telling my mum and my husband's parents that we are going for it. But at the same time, I dont want them to be continously asking how it is all going and putting pressure on us announcing whether it worked or not. I never wanted it to be like this, family waiting around and expecting an announcement. It was meant to be a lovely surprise announcement.
I feel so angry that I dont get to enjoy those small pleasures that come with falling pregnant naturally and nobody knowing you were trying all this time. I feel like if I tell people I am really kissing goodbye to the last opportunity to announce a surprise pregnancy and enjoy breaking the good news to people in the way that it always should have been announced.
Anyway, I am probably ranting and this makes no sense but did you guys tell your immediate families or kept it between yourselves until you knew whether the first cycle worked or not?
Did you regret telling people if you did? Dis you regret not telling people if you didnt?
I should also say that another reason I dont want to tell my mum in particular is because she always takes bad news really badly and can add more stress to a situation. This will play on her mind all the time, especially since my older sis is now 5 months pregnant after not even trying (she is a lucky first time we stopped using contraception type). I am assuming it is not a good idea to have IVF treatment with people around you that create more stress? Does stress effect chances of success?
So what do you all think?
Thanks and sorry for the long post!
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IVF - did you tell people you were doing it?
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DontCareBear · 18/01/2019 00:03
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