Ladies, I need your help/advice.
I live 1,000 miles away from my family and normally would not spend Christmas with them. However, this Christmas my dad wanted us all together to celebrate, so after a lot of planning and coordinating, we are all set for our first family Christmas in a long time.
Then my darling little sister and her wonderful husband found out on Monday that their third and final IVF attempt had failed. They are so desperately low and have shut themselves away, which I completely understand. (We really struggled to get our family for 6 years, I remember vividly how difficult it was to deal with.)
We are maintaining contact via texts, which again is fine. I have offered to fly over for a hug, but she declined, and I respect that.
I am very aware that the next time I see them, it will be Christmas Eve late afternoon, my kids are all still young and caught up in the magic of Santa/Christmas and my parents are all caught up in making it all for the children. (They are trying their best, but they don't really understand infertility. We have both endured lots of 'well, your father only had to look at me...' repeated comments over the years). We are a close family, and everyone lives in the same street so there will be no avoiding us for my sister. Plus, the kids adore them and are already talking about going for walks with them and their dogs, etc.
Ladies, please offer me some guidance. What can I do to support my sister? Should I make sure I see her before Christmas? What can I offer them for Christmas? (Previous years have all been IVF focused, cds, etc). Should I just get her blotto and have a good cry together?
I just don't know what to do... 
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Family Christmas and failed IVF
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frogsgoladidadidah · 16/11/2016 09:37
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