DS2 has just started in the sixth form. We are assuming/hoping that he will go on to university.
Having gone through the whole university application process with DS1, who started this term at Sussex, I am very well aware of what we need to do, that we need to see universities as early as we can, and that he will need a good personal statement.
And this is where the problem lies.
DS2, apart from computer games, has no interests. He isn't sporty (has tried, but has no ability and really doesn't enjoy sport). He has been having drumming lessons for a few years, but doesn't really enjoy it, never practises, hasn't taken any exams and certainly has never responded to any requests from his teacher to get involved with any bands/orchestras.
He half-heartedly enrolled for the DoE bronze award, but it was mis-managed by his school, and he didn't complete it (he also didn't bother to push for it to be sorted out, so it wasn't entirely the school's fault). He has the opportunity to go for it again, or to 'upgrade' to silver/gold at college, but seems now to have backed out of it, despite expressing interest initially.
He did complete (and enjoyed) the World Challenge trip to Iceland that he did with school in the summer - but - IMVHO - this was little more than a glorified holiday. He (and the rest of his team) singularly failed at the fund-raising part of the challenge, so the whole thing ended up being paid for by Bank of Mum & Dad.
We have tried and tried to get him to do more things, to get involved in things - initially because we wanted him to have more interests, but latterly because I am so aware of the need to write something about him on his personal statement other than his academic achievements. (And I doubt that these are going to be 4 x A*, although I'm hoping that they will be reasonably respectable - he is certainly clever enough).
I'm tearing my hair out. We have had the conversation with him I don't know how many times, and it is just not registering with him.
Unless universities have suddenly developed an admiration for children with fabulous Facebook or Call of Duty skills, what can we do?
He can't be the only child like this though, surely? What do candidates write on their Personal Statement (that is acceptable!) if they are like this?
If it would be possible, would him getting a job make any difference?
DS2 is actually a very personable boy - I'm aware that I'm painting him to be a middle class brat, but he isn't really like that.
If anyone can help, I would be very grateful. I would be so sad if he was unable to achieve a university place because of this.
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BecauseImWorthIt · 06/10/2011 14:04
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