Please advise!
I'm coming to the end of my second maternity leave and returning 5 days a week in an intense finance job where I work from 7-4.30 then rush back to see the kids then bath then put them to bed and my husband strolls Kn 6.45 on a very good day, 7-7.15 normally and is out 1-2 times a week with clients late
Before this second baby I found this really tough when working like this with my first. We even had Aupair a to help with bed and bath but I always rushed back to see the baby and let the aupir off when I was home as I wanted our son to see a parent every day wherever possible. But this also was an exhausting situation for me as my husband would never step up for that responsibility so it was always me racing back, starting at 7 (2 hours before my contracted time) to get out on time to see our son before bed. Then most nights I would work after our son was asleep and then race to bed ASAP before waking at 5 again.
It was the toughest time of my life as I found myself managing the aupir, responsible for washing , cleaning , organising, tidying, meal planning, bill paying, class booking, food shopping for us and Aupair and also ensuring my husband had food.
I'm now so stressed about what I am returning to. We have decided to get a nanny full time with our eldest st playgroup a few mornings a week. Im trying to get my husband to start eg by getting him to get the amazon account on his phone or help by taking the washing up or not stepping over toys but putting them back in the cupboard but every time I have to remind him and then he hates me for nagging all day
What is the answer? On bad days I find it really so exhausting the endless tasks and management and thinking of everything all the time. Then I need to focus on trying to keep my husband happy and seeing friends on a weekend night and making sure we create happy memories for our kids
But when do I get to breathe ?
Does anyone have any answers ?
A chore list?
I tried mindful chef on a trial offer to get OH to cook and it didn't work it just sat in the fridge and he ate a sandwich from the mini mart next door
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nickname7890 · 02/08/2019 07:49
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