In complete contrast to my other inane thread about hair dye...
my DH has a mole on the back of his knee which I noticed for the first time the other day. I mean, I don't exactly go examining his knee. However I have now noticed it, and he tells me he has been aware of it for about 18 months. So, it is new.
DH has several large moles on his body. He is self conscious of them and that is the extent of his worry. So he says. But when I have in the past tried to talk about him getting them checked, he has become quite defensive and I suspect he is not so much worried, but embarrassed about them. I can see those ones though, and secretly, well not secretly but not overtly have kept an eye on on those over the years, they have not changed that I can tell, but I am not a doc.
But he has this new mole. Uneven, growing (in that I have not noticed it before now) DH knew straight away what I was referring to, which means he has also 'noticed' it, rather than knowing it was always there.
I have tried again to get him to see a GP. this time he conceded maybe he should. I tried to talk about the reasons and what might happen (they will just get him to check it every few years, go to a skin specialist, remove it). And his response is 'they will just want to remove all of them' in a clearly 'i dont want them to' tone. and went on with 'i know what will happen, I know why i need to get it checked. yeeeeees.'
But, he has not. It has been one week (not quite, 6 days). And when I asked if he will make a gp appt he says stopp hassling. I know I should, but I have asked him for years to just get them looked at and get registered with specialist etc who can keep an eye on them so if they change they get spotted immediately and he just wont.
What do you do to get your DH to the docs?
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How can I get my DH to the docs to check a mole?
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Pavlovthecat · 06/10/2011 20:51
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