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Can 't believe I'm posting under the "depressed"
I have had a completely SHT day/weekend.
Some friends (a couple) turned up to stay on Friday and are going tomorrow. I'll call them Sue and Ian. Sue has just about driven me to distraction this weekend. I am not that organised/tidy - it is always a struggle for me and this weekend I have cooked for and fed four adults and a toddler AND when I say cooked I mean I have really made an effort for them all and everything has been prepared fresh.
Despite this Sue has gone on and on about me being untidy (often with a joke) and yesterday I returned from Tesco to find she, Ian and DH had cleaned the kitchen for me (I WAS grateful) BUT had thrown out all my cut out recipes which live on the recipe holder (some of which I will not be able to replace).
She then added insult to injury by saying "try and keep it tidy Mand, a little bit as you go along keeps it sparkling". I felt like screaming. Honestly, does she really expect a perfectly clean and tidy kitchen when I have been cooking on and off all bloody weekend without, I might add, any help from anyone else..
AND my darling 2 yr old is a terrible two. When we were out today he had a major screaming tantrum over something and walked along the road (with his reins on) whacking his head with his hand and screaming. Grrrrr!
THEN I discovered he had a penny in his mouth while we were driving home and he woiuldn't spit it out. I stopped the car to retrieve it whereupon he coughed and said "neermnd" (never-mind) leaving me with the conviction that "OMG he's actually swallowed it". Thankfully, it actually turned up in the carseat when we'd got home.
Here's to a better day tomorrow. (I now have a LARGE glass of chilled white wine)
You should just have said "Look, this is MY house, If I WANT to be untidy I will. Do I come round UNtidying your house?? No I don't, so don't come tidying mine !!!! Now if you DON'T like it, p*ss off home, otherwise shut-up, sit down, eat the food which I have slaved to prepare for you and BE GRATEFUL."
Sorry you've had such a cr@ppy time, Aragon. Sue sounds like a bit of a nightmare tbh. Helping to clean up is one thing but throwing someone else's things out and constantly going on about tidying up seems a bit obsessive to me.
P.S. Did you see that you had a thread asking where you were (under your old mumsnet name)? You've obviously been missed around here.
Is she a good friend otherwise? If you don't particularly like her, don't let them stay again. If it were me and I did want to keep the friendship going but found myself dwelling on this, I'd actually talk about it to her. Not angrily or confrontational. Wait til you've calmed down a bit, and then explain it to her like you did for us. Hopefully she'll be able to see it from your point of view, it'll clear the air and you can move on. If she doesn't like it, then thats her problem.
Thats what I'd do anyway.
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