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A terrible admission

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charx Tue 11-Aug-09 23:52:07

Tonight I have made a terrible admission to myself and DH was I wondering if any of you have had this feeling too.

It has just occured to me that I'm not feeling the love for DD2 now 9 weeks and that I'm hoping that she gets to 12 weeks and starts giving something like smiles and perhaps a bit of routine because i'm not enjoying her.

In fact I pretty much do anything not to have to be with her.
Having written this down, and I know this sounds quite shocking . . . I wouldn't hurt her or anything - just massively apathetic towards her and I don't think its quite normal.

Don't remember feeling this with DD1.

Yurtgirl Tue 11-Aug-09 23:57:46

It feels terrible but I dont think its that unusual - I certainly felt like this, it waned eventually and soon I was full of love for both my lo's

You are tired, just had a second baby, hormones everywhere - more washing to do and having to be up in the night for baby and daytime for older child really hit me hard!

Its good that you are able to admit to yourself how you are feeling

Have you got a nice Health Visitor? a good real life friend to chat to?
Home Start is another good option - a volunteer can visit to chat to you about stuff
Or the obvious solution - go to GP!


candyfluff Wed 12-Aug-09 08:26:21

i felt like this with my ds3 ,i had terrible pnd - maybe its what you have,i think you should talk to your health visitor or gp about how your feeling.
it took me a long time around 8 months to fallin love with him ,i had ad's counselling and a home start volenteer.
pleasedont dispair its not a forever thing xxxxx hug for you

LoveBeingAMummy Wed 12-Aug-09 08:31:46

My friend didn't 'bond' (for wantof a better word) with her first Dc and then felt even worse when the second came along and it was so natural.

It is normal in the ense that it happens to lots of women please speak to someone.

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