She had her second baby 8 weeks ago and I see her every week or so.
We run a parenting group together. There are about 300 local families on the email list and my friend is posting something almost every day. Most people only post once every few weeks or months.
She's asked all sorts:
How do we co-sleep?
I can't put my baby down.
He's a noisy sleeper.
Should I pump yet?
Tell me about your birth experience (hers wasn't bad but I know she doesn't feel satisfied with it. People rather unhelpfully posted all about their wonderful births and how happy they are)
She is generally quite anxious and frets about things but won't necessarily do it openly. When I've seen her, she's been quiet but ok. Not lively and bubbly, which I wouldn't expect with a 3 yr old and a newborn, but she says she's alright. Yet she doesn't smile.
After her DS was born, I took them some dinner and cake on another day and took her and her DC to the park. But I really think she is struggling and I am not sure what to do.
I don't want to barge in and say, 'You seem depressed...'
Should I just keep descending on her with food? Or tell her I am worried. Or invite her out again? I don't want to keep pestering her if she wants to be left alone but I don't want her to think no-one has noticed or that we don't care.
I had very severe depression in the not too distant past so I know how awful it can be. Yet I have no idea how to help someone else.
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Not sure where to put this but how do I help my friend - PND?
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SuperBunny · 13/09/2008 19:14
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