here goes, my mother has always hoarded, all the way through my childhood there were always bags of clothing, stacks of books, newspapers etc, which just got worse over the years but because it was a gradual thing I didn't really acknowledge how not normal this was.
It has now got to the point that within my parents house (I have one brother at home ft and 2 at home pt, my parents have a large bungalow)
-my mother sleeps in the spare room, which is stacked all round to head height, and you have to duck to get through the door,
-the corridors are half the width they should be floor to ceiling,
-there are 2 large rooms that you cannot enter, one has never been used in the 10 years since the house was extended.
-the kitchen is such a hazard I don't know where to begin
-the main living room is a big room but actual useable space within the room is approx 1/4 of it's floor area.
I know my mother has mh issues and has for years. some of the labels I have tentatively applied are depression, OCD (which manefists itself as hoarding), anxiety.
So ideas, please. Things have now reached the point where the situation is really affecting my dads health. if he tries to through any of the newspapers etc away she kicks off into such a tantrum, screaming, stropping, bellowing, sulking etc. If I suggest coming over to help her I get much the same reaction. She's always going on about how she had plans to do xyz but
Where do I start trying to get her help. Dad is reluctant in case of outside interferance, ["they might section her"] but i think its reached the point where something has to be done. she isn't really willing to go to the gp, is in total denial about the situation.
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How can I begin to help my mum, I suspect issues with depression, her hoarding is beyond a joke, HELP (v long, sorry)
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DaughterofaWomble · 17/08/2008 20:37
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