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stabbed in the back!

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nightowl Fri 14-Jan-05 18:32:42

oh the lies...the blatent lies that my previous employers can come up with and they sit there in their creased suits trying to justify sacking me. just to be in the same room as them was hell. i was expecting them to twist things but to lie like they have..and its my word against theirs. it was a decent outcome and i know i should be happy but im feeling so sorry for myself right now. these are the people who i thought valued and respected me, who i spent all day for 8 years with..and now we are sitting at two ends of a table debating whether what they did was legal. it sucks. rant rant rant. ive spent the last 7 months being upset about it and today just brought it all back.

jampots Fri 14-Jan-05 18:36:25

nightowl - im sorry you've had a crap time. Is that the end of the matter now? I suspect that'll be me in a few months

jabberwocky Fri 14-Jan-05 18:40:36

So sorry nightowl. It's hard to know what to say at times like this. I don't want to be all sappy with the "when a door closes, a window opens" but TBH that is the way things have generally gone for me in the past. It's just hard to think about it at the time when you feel low and everything seems so awful. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way. [hug icon]

nightowl Fri 14-Jan-05 19:26:37

its not finished. we have a tribunal set for later ( a lot later) this year...i know i should be happy i have a case but i cant help being sad. these are the people i looked up to, who gave me a chance when i was a stupid teenager. i broke my back for that company. we all went out socially on a regular basis. we had such a laugh together. that stupid job was my life and they dismissed me without a second thought...injury to feelings?...they have no effing idea. sometimes i wish we could all go back to where we were. i think its only just hit me...im crying my eyes up. i cant beleive that i will never work there again. its so hard to not take it personally..i used to go to the boss's house, theyve been to my house. im so hurt as much as anything else. i thought i had so many friends there...sorry its pathetic...im sobbing all over my keyboard and im going out with my dad in half an hour. i look a bloody mess.

amynnixmum Fri 14-Jan-05 19:29:24

My sis is having similar problems with her job. I'm sorry you're so upset.{{{hugs}}}

nightowl Fri 14-Jan-05 19:31:47

any normal person would be over it by now...but not me. no...im getting more upset by the minute. im so embarrassed.

amynnixmum Fri 14-Jan-05 19:37:28

Don't be daft. These sort of things are really hurtful and you probably won't be able to leave it behind you until after the tribunal. My poor sis has been in a right state over what is happening with her and like you she has a good case and will win the tribunal but she is really hurt that they are putting her through this sh*t.

Frizbe Fri 14-Jan-05 19:38:28

don't be embarrassed about it, its just your feelings coming out...I got the boot from my 1st job when I was just 19 (they waited until I'd moved out of my parents as well, they knew I'd moved house only two months before) and they sacked me giving a pathetic reason, which had I known then what I do now, it'd have been tribunal city, and I'd have walked away with one hell of a packet (they basically got rid of everyone it turned out just before the old two year period, where your employee got benefits...and the reason given was not a good reason at all)but enuff about me, this is about you, and I just wanted to sympathise, and I hope your case goes well {{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

jabberwocky Fri 14-Jan-05 19:40:23

Yes, don't feel as if you shouldn't cry about it - get it out, and have a good sob if you feel like it. You had a relationship with these people and your job and will most likely go through all the steps of grieving as you would any loss.

nightowl Fri 14-Jan-05 22:59:35

thanks...i know im daft. its not the end of the world and not a huge problem compared to many. im a bit better now...saw my dad and his sarcasm and drink buying power helped! (well its the first time in my life hes taken me out so its ok to spend his money imo! and giving him a rollocking whilst he squirmed and apologised was good too!) eyes are like two holes in the snow but i'll be ok!

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