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Am I making too much of this?

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auntysocial · 30/07/2007 17:10

Last week I got a letter saying I had a job interview, I was over the moon but extremely nervous as this was a huge deal to me, it was the start of my career... a life changing job. DP didn't seem bothered at all and apart from that saturday when the letter arrived he didnt mention it at all.

The interview was today and so a few days ago I asked DP to ask me some "interview questions" so I could prepare, I said it in a light hearted way but he just said "I don't know any" and changed the subject, he has not mentioned the job interview since.

Anyway as I said the interview was today, yesterday and last night I got no "good luck for tomorow" from him, no mention of it at all. I went for the interview today and didn't get the job , again DP has not mentioned the interview, has not asked me how it went or anything.

I'm sad because nobody ever seems to give a sh*t about what I do, my best friend has not asked me how it went either but I'm more annoyed with DP, I always seem to get with blokes that couldn't care less about me and I'm so sick of it, it would be so nice to feel as though I am genuinly loved and cared about.

Am I beinga a stupid drama queen? I know people go for job interviews all the time but would it really have hurt him to wish me luck? I know he'll say he forgot which is probably true but it doesn't make it any less hurtful.

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agalch · 30/07/2007 17:13

Oh poor you(((hugs)))
I am so sorry you didn't get the job.Your Dp sounds insensitive to say the least

It's horrible when those close to you don't make an effort.Bet you always do for friends/family tho eh?

Not got any advice but i am sure you will get a fab job!!!

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Hassled · 30/07/2007 17:15

Firstly commiserations re the job - but it's their loss, remember!
Forgetting things like this isn't a valid excuse - if he did forget, he shouldn't have. If he didn't forget, what reason could he have for not mentioning it? Would the new job have meant you earned more than him (a problem with some stone-age types), or changed your working hours in a way that would affect him? If those possibilities don't apply, he's just being completely self-centred and you're not being a drama queen at all - in your shoes, I'd be livid. I think you need to have a talk about it with him - his behaviour sounds weird to me, and you have to know what was behind it.

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newlifenewname · 30/07/2007 17:16

It ISN'T your fault but sometimes you can change things by expecting (demanding maybe) more. Your dp could just be lazy and to some extent you let him get away with it. You sound awfully self deprecating which is a real shame.

Bad luck - I read your previous thread. I'm applying for jobs right now too and it can get very demoralising.

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newlifenewname · 30/07/2007 17:16

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cornsilk · 30/07/2007 17:17

Sorry you didn't get the job auntysocial.
Maybe your dp has got something on his mind?
Why don't you write down the questions you were asked so that you can practise your technique for your next interview?

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auntysocial · 30/07/2007 17:56

They said I did fine in the interview but there were 2 positions going and the two that got the job were doing similar things already...I came a close third apparantly

The job would have meant me earning more than him, he always makes a song and dance about how "annoying" it is when single parents get paid a full time wage for doing part time hours so when he found out I'd be earning more than him whilst only doing half the hours I think he felt a bit bitter. Still, I don't think that excuses his behaviour.

I don't think he's got anything on his mind, last night I was waiting for him to say something about my interview and all I got was "hey, come and look at this cat on youtube..."

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auntysocial · 31/07/2007 09:42

Mentioned it to him last night and all I got was "oh shit, I forgot" then he asked how it had gone and because I wasn't really in the mood to talk about it by then he said "why do I get the feeling I'm in the dog house for forgetting about your interview?" so he still isnt taking it seriously.