My husband is showing signs of depression

[lolaband142]

Basically what I said in the title... he's irritable, tired all the time, headaches, random anger, seems stressed over little things, extreme social anxiety which has increased over the last couple of years. Doesn't really care about his appearance etc.. Not really sure how to confront him about it. He gets snappy with me if I ask if he's alright and try to get him to open up. He just seems down or stressed a lot of the time. Only time he seems happier is when he's on his own playing on his computer. He was an ambitious person around a year ago, now he tends to plan things when he's in a better but never do them.. even the simplest of things for example 'oh we can go on a walk this weekend if it's nice' but when it gets round to it he just slumps on the settee all day not moving unless it's to eat.. hate seeing him so unmotivated and down.

Can anyone give me some advice on how to maybe bring this up or even help him without bringing it up? Has anyone been in this situation?

[PenelopeStoppit]

Hi Lola. Sorry you and your husband are having a hard time. I would be inclined to book him a GP's appointment and make it clear you expect him to go. It is not fair he is making your life miserable.

If you don't want to try this rather strong approach could you text him this article? I read it at the weekend and thought it was interesting:
www.theguardian.com/society/2018/jan/07/is-everything-you-think-you-know-about-depression-wrong-johann-hari-lost-connections
You could leave him to think about it overnight and then use it to open up a discussion about what needs to change to make life happier. A softer and more supportive approach might work better.