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Convinced my MIL is mentally ill.

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user1479497126 Mon 26-Jun-17 12:07:55

I'm convinced my mother in law is mentally ill. Which sounds terrible, but I'm sure of it.

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two years and while I'm very close with his family, his mother has always been the black sheep since she and his dad divorced around 15 years ago.

We don't really speak because my boyfriend has distanced himself from her because of issues with her stemming back from his childhood.

His parents are polar opposites now: his dad has done well for himself with his career and house and remarried last year.

Meanwhile his mom has no job (she claims from whiplash 13 years ago), takes advantage of th benefit system and gets evicted from her house every 6 months due to hoarding and just generally not looking after herself.

She's addicted to the internet, posts at least 50-100 times a day on Facebook, literal random articles. She claims she's this brilliant grandmother, where in actual fact she just sits on Facebook whilst the kids are playing.

She gets herself into dangerous situations both financially and physically by hanging around with the wrong crowd and trusting people too much. She's decided to take it upon herself to leave her current flat without getting a new one, and then paying money on a deposit without signing a contract, and them cutting off contact with her.

She has to go private as she has no guarantor because she's unstable.

My boyfriends aware she's mentally ill but thinks she's a lost cause. I haven't spoken to his brothers as it's not my place to say. But I'm not sure what to do. She's a car crash waiting to happen.

Finola1step Mon 26-Jun-17 12:11:00

There is nothing you can do. Just support your DP in the situation and respect his decisions.

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