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Suicidal family member

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Anaffaquine123 Wed 15-Feb-17 22:55:17

This will be deliberately vague so no-one can be identified but hopeful will still be understandable.
Family member "A" has for years not taken care of themselves in anyway, personal hygiene, wearing dead relatives clothes, doesn't bother getting painful sores on legs treated, finances in a mess, house an absolute tip etc.
Many "interventions" have been staged by various family members over the years and A gets help to get things sorted a bit but before long everything is back how it was.
A was the victim in an abusive relationship with an alcoholic, kids went to live elsewhere as A couldn't seem to get things sorted.
A's personality is completely different to how they were a long time ago. I think the person they used to be is completely lost. The person left doesn't have much emotion about anything and is unbelievably submissive.
I have for a very long time felt they were severely depressed. A is only now admitting they need help and has asked me to go to the gp with them tomorrow. A admitted they considered killing themselves today but due to another close family member being pregnant, in their words, "won't do it yet"
It is really difficult to get a dr's appointment at their surgery but I feel it must be tomorrow.
Anyone got any advice? I am willing to help anyway I can but have no clue where to start.
Thanks in advance.

oleoleoleole Wed 15-Feb-17 22:59:57

Firstly if you are at all concerned they will take their own life imminently call 999. Secondly, please request an urgent same day appointment with GP tomorrow as it sounds like A has finally realised they need help. Don't be put off, ensure you see someone within next 24 hours.

AnxiousCarer Wed 15-Feb-17 23:21:46

I second what ole said, although if you think there is an imediate risk and can pursuade A to go to A&E that might be better than 999, that would be for an imediate risk when they refused A&E. Also in urgent situations you can call 111 and they may be able to send an out of hours GP out for an emergency home visit, they did this for DH and were very helpful.

As they have said they are not planning anything yet, ask for an urgent GP appointment, make sure they have samaritans number 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org and continue to offer the wonderful support you are doing.

Catherinebee85 Thu 16-Feb-17 01:42:58

If you don't feel it can wait and they're in a crisis Google your local NHS crisis team number and give them a ring. It doesn't sound as though they have immediate plans, but don't let them play it down when you see the GP tomorrow. It's really positive that they've disclosed this and suggests that they may be ready to accept support.

Anaffaquine123 Thu 16-Feb-17 09:08:04

Thank you, we are away to sit in the dr surgery until A is seen. They want me to come and speak too.

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