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Fear of getting a job

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SingaSong12 Sat 07-Jan-17 11:42:32

Has anyone else had bad worries about job interviews or being offered a job? I know interviews are scary for everyone but think my ASD, needing to get things right is exacerbating it.

Not sure if I should be here or maybe on MH. I've got a job interview on Monday and my overreaction is fear and that I want to run away. I'm getting intrusive thoughts about death. (I am not suicidal).

I'm most worried in case I get the job. I'm fear making mistakes. My depression is well controlled but all the jobs I've had have ended due to deterioration in mental health.

I find it so difficult to get to know colleagues and interact.

EvaSthlm Sat 07-Jan-17 12:22:55

Take one step at a time. Look at it as more of simply practising having an interview, and think less about the job. Solve the other problems once you face them. Everybody makes mistakes, bigger or smaller ones. Whatever you do, don't say "I have MH issues" or something to that effect. It's better to say something vague like "I have strong sides and weak sides, and I'm working on bettering my weak sides, but prefer to build on my strong sides."

Mehfruittea Sat 07-Jan-17 12:29:46

Explain at the start of the interview that you are very nervous. A good employer will take that in to account and give you the time to answer each question. They will Judge you on your answers. They will probably ask for examples: Tell me about a time when you... and will be based on the job description. Be prepared to tell them why you want the job, and why you want to work for them.

Best of luck, I hope it goes well.

SingaSong12 Sat 07-Jan-17 12:44:53

Thanks- interviews are actually OK. I'm really worried about being offered or doing the job because my previous jobs have ended badly and with poor health. I do know it is the right time to take the plunge again but it is scary. I'm the one that puts pressure on myself. Trying to remind myself that I've learnt some techniques like mindfulness since the last time. Also I can can try it out and if it doesn't work I am incredibly lucky to have the financial option to resign.

EvaSthlm Sun 08-Jan-17 06:53:26

Just take one day at a time.

HereInMyHead Sun 08-Jan-17 20:15:59

Yes, I am just like you! I do have a job now, but it will probably end in March and I am stressing about finding/ doing another one. Don't have any answers, but I do think it's helpful to challenge any unhelpful thoughts you might be having. One of mine is that I will hate the job and be stuck in it FOREVER! I often forget about the fact that I have choices ☺

HereInMyHead Sun 08-Jan-17 20:16:47

Oh and I also worry that my mental health will be affected when in reality having a job is good for my mentalness ☺

SingaSong12 Tue 10-Jan-17 16:29:41

Went to the job interview yesterday. It was OK . I fully disclosed disability and just as well because the first bit was going through CV and asking about all the gaps. Next bitvwas about adjustments I'd like and I did feel uncomfortable. I find admitting the things I need really hard and wasn't prepared for the question. Maybe they wanted to show they are open to disabled people. I expected that to be discussed if they offered the job. I also have physical difficulties and can only type one handed so voice recognition software might be helpful. I said that and the interviewer (the were 3) said a lot of them type with a couple of fingers. I couldn't face explaining the difference that if I strain my strong hand through excess use I won't be able to function day to day at all..

They are going to post out job offer/refusal so won't hear till tomorrow. I'm so scared going to get a job offer. I'm full of intrusive thoughts of death. Again not suicidal and will phone Samaritans if I have any thoughts like that. I did at 3am this morning as couldn't sleep and alone with my thoughts but unfortunately they were busy. I managed to calm myself.

I know that the adult thing to do would be to try the job of I'm offered it but I want to run a mile.
I know I'm being stupid but please hold my hand sad

HereInMyHead Wed 18-Jan-17 15:53:20

What happened SingaSong?

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