Awful xmas. I've been ill - heavy cold, cough, toothache. Already have a budding alcohol problem, as I use it to numb how awful I feel. H went out on xmas eve and bought me a hideously expensive technology present. Honestly, why you'd spend £1600 on this piece of technology is beyond me. He only did it because he has some money following the death of a parent (he's usually the tightest person on the planet). That's all I got - not one suprise or thoughtful present to open - he even told me on the way home (as I have to take him to get this present - can't drive himself) that it would be 'our' laptop, and he'd probably spend more time on it than I would. He opened his own presents, said 'is that all?' and threw them down and stormed out (we've barely spoken in 2 months - he's lucky he got what he did, which was functional stuff he needs, like clothes, and chocolate, smellies, flavoured coffee etc). He thought he should get a new phone. My kids reacted in different ways. Oldest said it was the worst xmas ever, despite having loads of money spent on stuff (again due to H inheritance). Youngest said, in a dead voice, well you two argue every day anyway. Not sure which reaction is worse. In context, when H threw his toys out of the pram about his lack of phone, he went to bed (about 10), got up when I asked one of the boys to tell him xmas dinner was ready, sat in the kitchen smoking a spliff while we 3 ate our xmas dinner, then lost his to the bin when I threw it in there after we'd finished. Instead of waiting around for him to get up yesterday (he always comes to bed about 6/7 am and gets up about 3/4 pm) we went out for pizza and cinema, but I felt bad about present and bought him a phone. It was partly feeling bad, partly of interest to see how he would spin this one. He's now acting like everything's fine. I fucking hate him. He's done nothing but scream at DH1 today, as he's now my friend and needs someone to be hateful to. I can't stop crying and keep thinking a death by natural causes over night would stop my kids being too traumatised (obviously they would be devestated, but not in the same league as if I took my own life). I fucking hate my life. My best friend has abandoned me, as I'm sure she's sick of me going back to him however badly he behaves (he is very emotionally abusive, but then I just take it and go back for more). I'm educated, have a good job, and a loving famiily. But my god I have fucked my life up. I tried to get away from him last year, and he took to his bed and starved himself. Don't even know why I'm writing this down, I'm just sick sick sick of myself, him, my life.
Why don't I LTB? Oh if it were that easy.
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Never felt so much like I want to end it all
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user1482874842 · 27/12/2016 22:02
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