Not sure what's going on here. DH bumped into my friend recently (I thought of her as my closest friend) and she told him she lives in a house that is less than 2 minutes walk away from us. Yet she hadn't told me this. Isn't that a bit weird?
Bit of a backstory, sorry it's long.
Been best mates since we were kids, maid of honor for each other etc. Then I got ill about 3 years ago. I bumped into her once after that and she was very pregnant. I was really happy for her, but unable to have a much longed for 2nd DC I couldn't see her or talk to her about it and I admit I avoided her - it wasn't hard, we lived in different towns. Kept up with her updates on facebook etc. She was aware of my illness but never asked how I was or came to see me anymore. For a long time I couldn't leave the house. She always says happy birthday/christmas on facebook and will occasionally like something of mine on there, and I do the same, but that's it. Its been that way ever since.
Not long after her DC was born, she & her DH split up and she moved into a new place. I thought she was in same town as her ex as they split amicably and still do family stuff together. Photos all over facebook & twitter. She seems to be doing well and I was pleased for her, making a new start.
I admit I'm as much to blame for letting this friendship slide because I'm not very mobile and can't walk far before I'm in lots of pain, so I only go out of the house when I really need to. Last few months I've been so lonely and felt so isolated, while she seems to be having lots of fun with her other friends. I felt like no one cares about me, they've forgotten I exist - the usual depression-fuelled thoughts.
Then she bumps into my DH and says she lives in a house I can actually walk to without getting pain, and has been there for over 2 years, and she never told me. All the times I've sat here in a sobbing mess from the loneliness and she was just there, so close! I could have been a much better friend if I'd known. Our friendship wouldn't have fizzled out if she'd told me straightaway. I wouldn't have got so lonely and isolated and she would have had me as support like before she had DC etc.
She always said she'd always be there for me and she wasn't. She was my only close friend, whereas she has always had lots. I feel hurt and confused. Why didn't she tell me? But then, if she didn't want me to know she lived so close, why tell my DH now? If I moved into a street knowing a good friend of mine lived there, I'd probably at least message them on facebook and say 'hey I just moved into number X, fancy a coffee sometime?' Wouldn't you? Just out of courtesy really.
I don't know what I want from posting this here, I just haven't got anyone else to talk to about it. DH doesn't really get why I feel so hurt. I feel so alone.
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Friend being weird? Or is my depression messing with my head?
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SecretBanter · 21/11/2016 02:47
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