I didn't want to post this in the section where people are seeking support with alcohol issues as I am not sure it is suitable. I could use some advice about what to do.
My father was an evil alcoholic bastard, I lived a childhood of absolute misery - domestic violence and mental abuse which also affected me my sister and my mum. He died when I was 17 and at the age of 53 I still lack confidence, have self esteem issues etc.
DD (19) started her first serious relationship a few months ago. She came home crying and almost hysterical a few weeks ago because BF had suggested they have a break. Turns out he is an alcoholic who has been sober on and off for a few months only. DD had confided in him her anxieties about starting Uni and he said he could not cope with her problems and his own and he was going out drinking. A few days later they got back together.
I feel absolutely devastated that she is setting herself up for absolute misery. To be fair BF is going to AA meetings daily. She is already accused of driving him to drink. She is 'in love' and will not listen to my advice that his primary relationship is with alcohol. DD has just started Uni - about 2 hours journey from where we live but wants to maintain this relationship.
I told my Mum last night on the phone and we were both in tears - she still feels very guilty about the effect her marriage had on her children.
Shall I keep on at DD to end it - I feel like I am watching a slow car crash at the moment. I know she is an adult and can make her own decisions but I don't think she realises what she is getting into.
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My father an alcoholic - DD dating one - feel devastated
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blackcatlover · 30/09/2016 17:34
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