I am feeling quite nervous writing this post. Not sure why.
Recently in the news, there was a cafe attack by ISIS (or so they claim) in a third world country. This country is my country of birth, I lived and went to a school there for many years. My parents and one of my siblings still live there. I come from quite a dysfunctional family. Mom a textbook narc and my dad is honestly the same. They take turns in enabling each other I think. As you may have guessed, I am the scapegoat.
So during this cafe attack, someone that my siblings know through a cousin of ours was murdered. Really lovely, sweet girl. I never knew her but my heart breaks for every single person who suffered at the hands of these animals. But I sort of got obsessed with this victim, wanting to read and know everything about her life. My sisters (who I do not speak to due to a lot of manipulation and abuse) were saying to my mom (who passed this on) that they were so devastated that such a beautiful, happy, lovely human being should die this way. I am equally devasted. But there is a horrible part of me that knows that if I had been in that cafe, if I had been murdered brutally murdered, they would never say these lovely, kind things about me. No one would. My funeral would be empty and not a single soul would miss my face. I am unloveable.
I keep fantasising about going back there if/when this cafe opens again and hoping it happens to me, that I am brutally tortured and killed. But then there would be the indignity of my funeral, where no one cares, and no one comes.
I am disgusted with my self for making an innocent persons murder all about me. What kind of disgusting narcissistic thinks like this?
But in the papers, they showed scores of her friends and family mourning her, as they rightfully should. I also mourn all those innocent lives, particularly for some reason this girl specially. I feel like she didn't desrrve to die when so many are devastated by her death, whereas if I had died it would be a logical thing to happen. It would not impact anyone and not cause so many people such sadness. Her relatives do not deserve this. Mine would not care. My death would mean nothing and no one would be hurt.
AIBU to have these fantasies that I was dead? I am not ensioning masses of people showing up at a vigil for me or anything. But I am part of the Earth, and I belong to the soil. For once, I belong. I am at peace.
My head is all over the place.
AIBU?
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MissPebblesFlinstone · 18/07/2016 18:19
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