I have asked for help on here before and been told that I don't understand. Well thanks for that, that's a great help. That's kind of the problem.
My DFil has depression and some sort of psychosis, I think. Utterly paranoid and delusional and suspicious. Lost all functional ability. Won't eat, won't cook anything, won't use the washing machine, won't write. We try and do things for him, shopping, feed him, bit of washing. He thinks his pills are poison. He thinks the neighbours sending him a Christmas card means they're going to kill him. He's having trouble going to the loo, walking, got no energy etc. Blames this on the pills he doesn't always take. In reality he sits in his armchair and doesn't eat enough or get any exercise of any sort. Shuffles round his house doing nothing. Lost all ability to do anything. You get the picture.
We don't know what to do. We have no idea. This has been going on for months. We know about as much about mental health as he does. We have had the crisis team out numerous times. They drive over every night at the moment to make sure he takes his meds otherwise he won't take them. He has weekly reviews at the hospital with the doctors but so far no tangible progress. He had a spell in hospital for a couple of days, got sent to a half way house for a week where because he perked up a bit they then sent him back home.
He won't have carers. Meals on wheels don't drive that far out. He is extremely isolated where he lives. We are now thinking that perhaps he needs to sell his house and move into a residential care home or something. Does that sound feasible?
We just don't know what else to do. He has a support network, family, friends, a care worker, doctors etc. Yet nothing has changed. We are in the same situation that we were months ago. His sons, my Dh and DBil, can't deal with him. They get cross and try and argue and explain and reason when he can't see reason or understand. I know the world seems different to him now and he genuinely believes black is white, etc but we don't understand it either and we can't help him.
Is this his life now? Is this it? He's only 69. Is this it for the next however many years? This is no way to live.
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How do you help someone with psychotic depression? When you haven't got a bloody clue yourself?
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MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 17/12/2015 23:50
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