has anyone 'lost' their bond with child?

[alicemac83]

Hi ladies,
I've recently been through a period of depression/acute anxiety which was similar to the pnd I had 3 years ago. I'm coming out the other side now, but I'm still worrying about my bond with my 3yr old. I think I'm worrying too much, and I'm constantly watching out for the old rushes of love I used to feel. Has anyone else been through anything similar? And will I get my bond back? Xx

[126sticks]

It may be better if you post this on a different board?

You havent got any replies on here, and I think, that you will probably get quite a few on one of the young child ones? Or even chat?

hth

[LovelyBath]

I have had this experience. I found my anxiety made the children anxious, although i was going through severe physical health problems at the time.

i just wanted to post and say that at the time it can feel you have lost the bond and it will not return but as I got better things improved and they did come back to me in the end.

Simple things, like reading a book or spending time together will encourage your child to feel loved and just attention really...even watching TV together. Don't be too hard on yourself. HTH.

[Judyandherdreamofhorses]

Yes, I've just started counselling for this issue.

Three weeks in, the bond (or my perception of it) is better. I've uncovered a tonne of other stuff that needs dealing with though! It's worth it as I'm sort of doing it for DD, but now for my own sake as well.

[alicemac83]

Thank you for your replies, Judy, did you have pnd too? What do you find is helping? Xx