This is my first time posting in this section and I'm sorry if it's not appropriate but I need someone to talk to.
My mum died a few years ago. I was 18. Mum wasn't well, she had bipolar disorder, over dosed on her meds once, was in and out of mental health and ordinary hospitals, had arguments with dad etc. so we had a rocky relationship.
I am the youngest of 5 ( brothers and sisters much older than me) so by the time I was 12, all my siblings left home, my mum and dad split up and there was just me and mum at home. I felt so lost and, to be honest, abandoned. My mum said some horrible things to me, that at the time I didn't understand was due to her illness. And I was constantly passed from family member to family member (aunts, not siblings) when she had to go into hospital. As a teen a cut my wrists and self induced vomiting as a way of coping.
As a result I had a fucked up childhood and as an adult I suffer a whole host of physical and mental problems that I am unable to tell anyone about in rl. I feel a cocktail of sadness, pain, emptiness, anger and above all, guilt. I have lovely memories of my mum when I was around 4-8 years old. One that sticks out in my mind is putting a massive blanket down on the living room floor and watching the Sound of Music together.
Those times were wonderful and I cling onto them. I wish I had them back :(. Despite all the problems, she was still my mum and I miss her so much :( :( :(.
All I want is to tell her how sorry I am that I didn't understand that she wasn't well and how much I love her. I am sitting here in tears. My life is in chaos at the min, my job is making me miserable, I have no confidence, everything makes me cry, I don't want to be around my friends, sometimes I just don't want to live anymore and write poetry about what the world would be like if I wasn't here.
I don't deserve to be happy, I made my mum miserable so why shouldn't I be miserable? I'm a hateful person who couldn't understand her mum was sick and now all I feel like is doing is running a bath and "falling asleep in it" iykwim. Of course I would never do it, but sometimes I think about it and then feel relieved at the thought of it :(
I am a failure of a daughter, of a girlfriend, an employee, and of a human being.
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Need to talk about my mum :(
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RubyRain · 30/03/2014 21:26
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