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I dont think i can face this

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Minnieisthedevilmouse Tue 19-Nov-13 15:47:28

Heffa just reiterating genuine f up by me here. Apologies again. Hope you get stuff sorted x

JulieMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 18-Nov-13 21:05:21


We're just letting you know that we've been asked to move this into the mental health section.

Wishing you all the best, HeffaLump thanks

callamia Mon 18-Nov-13 11:35:57

Eventually, it will probably help you to see a different GP. Medication is rarely a good enough fix for anxiety - it can definitely help, but you will probably also need to work on the thought processes.

For now, what can you manage for your oartner's birthday? Can you manage just the cinema? Tell yourself that you can go home afterwards. You might realise that it's not so bad, and choose to stay out - or you might go home without causing a scene (or feeling like you are - I don't imagine you actually would).

How can your partner support you? I know it's his birthday, but perhaps there are some things he can do to make you feel calmer and well supported when you go out.

You've clearly got through this once before, and I'm sure you can do it again, but be kind to yourself, it's not easy and you will need some good support from the people around you.

spanky2 Mon 18-Nov-13 11:28:21

Mindfulness will help you. It will help focus you on the now not the what ifs . Break it down into small steps . Practice going out for increasingly long spells away from home to take the edge off. Anti depressant with anti anxiety benefits ? thanks

Mintyy Mon 18-Nov-13 11:27:25

No I cross posted with you Minnie.

Antidote Mon 18-Nov-13 11:23:28

Why not try breaking it down into little chunks in your head and focusing on each step at a time.

For example, practice standing outside the door, just on the step for a few mins until it is less terrifying. Then go to the start of the street (or sit in the car) a few times.

you can them think through the step of driving to the cinema, then paying, then sitting in the film.

Don't jump ahead too far and freak yourself out.

You could well get yourself to the point where the film is manageable. The meal might have to wait for another day.

It sounds tough.

Minnieisthedevilmouse Mon 18-Nov-13 11:14:39

Minty I said and apologised for misreading the op. Did u misread my post? I genuinely read original as post about shared child not DP.

I'm sorry GP not helpful. I took it by the plea that you weren't or hadn't tried. Why hasn't that helped?

hellokittymania Mon 18-Nov-13 09:47:34

Can you manage the cinema? Can you have a special meal at home or do as another poster suggested and get a takeaway? Do nice restaurants do takeaways too?

YoureBeingASillyBilly Mon 18-Nov-13 09:33:24

Ok so you need to change gp, ask for chnage of meds, ask for counselling/therapy.

It is your responsibility to deal with this and that means not being defeatist and forcing professionals to take you seriously by providing any help that is available to you.

HettiePetal Mon 18-Nov-13 09:26:48

Even if she'd been talking about a DC, your sneering, sarcastic post would still have been innappropriate, Minnie.

I take it this is some form of agoraphobia, Heffa? Have you spoken to your GP about CBT?

HeffaFlump Mon 18-Nov-13 09:22:17

I have asked for this to be moved to MH .

I have on going MH problems which I thought I had control of , but for the past five weeks I have reverted back to how bad I was 7 years ago .
My Doc just said you are already on meds what else do you expect me to do hmm

YoureBeingASillyBilly Mon 18-Nov-13 09:18:53

Why is the gp no use?

What are you telling them and what do they say/do?

Untilthecowscomehome Mon 18-Nov-13 09:13:03

The cinema might be easier to face than the meal. You're in the dark, not expected to make conversation and no one can see you.

Why don't you suggest the cinema but with a takeaway afterwards? That way you've only got to worry about getting to the cinema which you might feel able to manage.

HeffaFlump Mon 18-Nov-13 09:09:33

Minnie hmm

I have been to my gp a gazillion times not that its any use

Mintyy Mon 18-Nov-13 09:02:56

It is her partner's birthday! fgs.

Minnieisthedevilmouse Mon 18-Nov-13 09:02:13

Ah completely read that wrong DP not child!!! I thought u meant his child! Apologies. However getting help still applies or dec will be so upsetting for u.

Minnieisthedevilmouse Mon 18-Nov-13 09:00:50

Gee let me think, how can you get out of your child's birthday..... Yup I'm coming up with hundreds of acceptable reasons, NOT.

If you are suffering go to the GP, do something. Or Xmas will be hellish. Something's wrong. Face that. That's the problem. Not the party.

Post in mental health? There's knowledgeable posters there who can take the fear out of the process and help.

Truly hope u get the strength up to go to the GP.

CaptainSweatPants Mon 18-Nov-13 09:00:48

Maybe get this moved to mental health sad

Mintyy Mon 18-Nov-13 08:59:13

Oh dear sad.

What help are you having for this problem? Have you talked about it with rl friends/family?

HeffaFlump Mon 18-Nov-13 08:56:50

Its my Dps birthday tomorrow & we are supposed to be going out Cinema/Meal & drinks .
I just can't face going out and doing all this as I don't like been out of my home recently .

Dp is really looking forward to it as we have not been out this year

Is there anyway I can get out of it without upsetting my Dp

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