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Need advice for DH

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bitamin · 14/07/2013 09:29

DH has been on ADs for about a year and a half, after sleeping issues. They got much better, and recently, his GP told him to cut dose in half ( to 10mg) and then stop after a month. It has been hellish since he cut the dose and awful since he stopped a week ago. He is going through a very stressful time at work, the children are tetchy at this time of year with school coming to an end, and his sleep is not good. He is grumpy, rude and fairly unpleasant to live with.

He will not go back to the GP, it took along time to get him therein the first place.

Any advice on how to support him? I am struggling as am also exhausted with full time work and two. little ones, plus I think I am probably suffering from mild depression myself.

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ColouringInQueen · 14/07/2013 12:23

Hi there, sorry to hear you're having such a tough time at the mo. From what I understand it is common to take a few weeks for your body to adjust once you've come off ads, tho I don't speak from personal experience (dh and I still on them!)

I would say try and get as much sleep as is poss, and be kind to yourselves as much as budgets allow.

How long has your dh been off them now? Would it help to at a deadline, eg if things still this bad in 4 weeks then back to doc? I am hoping someone with more experience of coming off ads can advise.

You say you're probably depressed too - this is quite common when one partner is - happened to me after dh depressed last year, plus other stuff going on. Do you have any good friends you can confide in about how you're feeling? Please be kind to yourself too, and I hope both you and dh see some improvement soon - take care.

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bitamin · 15/07/2013 20:25

Thank you for your support. Dh has been off them a week or so. We are going away in a couple of weeks, so he will have relaxation time, it may be wise for me to set that as a kind of deadline.

I don't have any very close friends to confide in unfortunately, and Dh being very proud, would be mad if he thought I was discussing his mental health.

I am trying to back off over the little things but it is so frustrating when I am so tired and fed up myself. I can see why OH s might get mild depression, it is draining trying to support someone and tiptoeing around them, whilst getting on with a busy life.