How do you know if you're depressed? I have never been particularly convinced that What I Read On The Internet Is True, but whenever I've attempted online depression tests they come back with moderate depression on a good day and severe depression on a bad day.
I manage to have a full-time teaching job and to do all the prep work and marking associated with that, to look after my 3 year old son, to keep the house fairly clean and very tidy and to do all the washing, ironing etc.
But I don't do anything I enjoy any more. I spend large amounts of time in the evening standing on my own in the kitchen just staring into space and worrying whilst my husband and son are in the living room. I don't talk to anyone at work (other than the students when I'm teaching them) and I daren't go into the staff room (unless it's just to check my pigeonhole and go straight out again) in case I have to talk to someone because then they would find out how horrible I am.
I used to go out with my friends but over the last 7 years or so I have steadily ignored messages etc and so I haven't seen any of my friends ( other than at one wedding and one funeral!) for about 5 years. I used to do a lot of music-singing in concerts and rehearsals every week and I stopped doing that when I was pregnant.
Whenever I've arranged to do something I enjoy I find a reason (eg I have marking to do) not to go at the last minute, because I think that me meeting up with friends would make them realise how boring and horrible I am and that me being there would spoil it for them.
I work in a department of 6 and I haven't been to any of the half-termly departmental meals out since I came back from maternity leave nearly 3 years ago; I keep saying that my husband has a meeting etc and there's no-one to look after our son so I can't go, which isn't true.
I spend so much time worrying about me being horrible to others that I tend to go to bed at past 2am and get up at 6:30 after going in to soothe DS back to sleep at least once (around 3:30-4am, takes about 5 minutes).
I tend to eat only cereal bars, fruit, chocolate and sandwiches; I never eat dinner as I'm trying (only semi-successfully) to control my weight.
I don't know if I 'm just tired or if it is something more than that, but I don 't really feel as if anything is real any more and I seem to be watching things happen from behind a pane of glass - I just don't believe that anything I do will ever make a difference to anyone. Everything just seems grey, unless I've been very worried about something and cut myself (only very, very tiny cuts , and that only happens about three or four times a year) which seems to bring the colour back into the world and makes me feel much more confident and able to cope with things.
My husband has made me an appointment to see the GP next week (now that I've finished school for Easter) and I really don't want to go because I 'm convinced that they will either tell me off for being silly and wasting their time when there are people with real problems, or just admit me to the local psychiatric hospital and refuse to let me leave.
I don't really know what to do - unless I do go to the appointment I can't see anything changing and I don't want to waste their time or have to leave DS.
I've tried hypnotherapy and also arranging private CBT sessions but the hypnotherapist said after 4 sessions that I was cured (and I didn't feel any different but didn't want to annoy him by contradicting him) and the only CBT therapist I could find that worked outside school hours said after 3 sessions that I wasn't trying hard enough and that if I wanted another session then I couldn't agree a time/date in the session and I would have to ring her and arrange it, after I had specifically told her that I wanted to arrange another session "now" and not on the phone later as I knew I wouldn't do it.
So I don't know where to go from here, really. I'm not convinced that the GP will be any use and I'm scared that telling the GP will mean that I do have "mental health problems" which will impact on whether I could ever get another job in teaching if I want to move schools.
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How do you know if you're depressed (long, sorry!)
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ellietheelephant1 · 28/03/2013 14:32
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