Hi everyone. This is my first time starting a thread.
DD's 4th birthday party is on Saturday. I've got an entertainer and it's in the village hall so that's good, although she isn't doing the whole party. There are 17 children coming (so far, three haven't got back yet) and mostly their parents will be staying as they are all quite young. I don't know the parents as DD knows the children coming through her childminder. I wish now I hadn't invited so many, but stupidly thought lots of people would be on holiday.
I had PND quite badly after DD was born. Felt suicidal etc. I've been off ad's for nearly a year but I'm feeling quite down again about this.
I've never been what you would call outgoing but before the depression I coped ok with this kind of thing. I did my older DS's parties, used to help run a toddler group and was involved in the church. Now I don't want to do any of these things. I've withdrawn from everything. Even now I'm a lot better I just don't feel I have any energy for anything outside my own nuclear family. I have a couple of close friends. I don't want to make any more because I have nothing to give them and they take a lot of energy from me. Which makes me feel really crap and mean.
I'm meant to be seeing a friend tomorrow with her DD. They are really nice but I feel like I'm getting snowed under with having to be with other people. It feels like it's all piling up. It affects how I am with the kids as I crave time on my own to make up for it. I would like to cancel her coming but she's had a hard time of it too so I feel I should do it for her.
What makes it worse is that DD is going to another party on the Sunday where I will have to stay so will have to talk to other parents. I wish I could take it all one day at a time but I don't seem to be able.
I know I will mess up somehow at the party. I will say something stupid or not be how I want to be with the children and I will replay it afterwards and beat myself up and cringe. I really want to do it for my DD but I'm so scared.
My DH and my family are helping but I feel like it's my responsibility that it goes well.
Does anyone feel the same about this kind of thing? I guess I need some reassurance that it will be ok.
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So nervous about DD's party
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fourbears · 29/07/2012 21:11
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