I've never suffered from depression before so have nothing to compare this with.
I suppose i lead quite a stressful life when you analyse it, but i've never really thought about it and have just tended to get on with things before. I am mum to a wonderful 18 mo DS, have an amazing husband and work FT. My job is pretty stressful in itself lots of deadlines, but i've always enjoyed my work. My boss is the biggest stresser though - awful to work for - scatter gun approach to things, moves the goalposts on a daily basis, expects more from me than i frankly feel i have the capacity to give. My priority now lies with my family, but she just doesn't seem to want to accept that and wants me to be more ambitious - presumably because her own 'success' depends on the success of the individuals working for her. So the pressure from her feels relentless. I work in the public sector where there's a lot of change and redundancy and my job is not guaranteed beyond November. I work from home 2 days a week to enable easier drop offs/ pick ups from the CM, which means i can reduce childcare costs and see more of my DS. The flexible working is subject to 3 monthly reviews and my boss has recently started intimating that it might not be workable for much longer.
I returned to work FT from mat leave last August, came back to find out that the post that supported me previously was now vacant. So for around 3 months i was doing 2 jobs, whilst trying to 'catch up' on events since i left almost a year ago and trying to recruit to a vacant position. I made a fantastic appointment who really helped me find my feet again, began supporting me to do my job, i felt like i was finally maing progress. Last week she resigned for a better job.
I'm not a particularly tearful/ emotional person, but just recently i've been bursting into tears at the drop of a hat. I feel like i'm going at 100 miles an hour and making no impact at work or at home. I've begun being so horrible to my wonderful DH and i just can't stop myself. I know i'm being unreasonable and always end up apologising to him, but i do it again and again. There are times when i feel sort of 'empty' and just can't be bothered with the effort any more. I don't feel like my old, positive self any more. I've had a few dizzy spells and sometimes get a bit 'shakey'. I'm scared of going to the doctor because i don't want to be put on tablets. The idea of it scares me witless.
I went to occupational health yesterday for the first time ever to talk things through. I felt a bit better when i left, especially when i was able to spend a couple of hours in the sunshine with my DS and DH. But then i was back to feeling hollow again by bedtime and this morning i can't muster much enthusiasm.
I haven't taken anything out on my DS, but i have difficult days, especially because he's hit a 'difficult' phase of biting and hitting and i sometimes wonder if it's because i don't spend enough time with him. Otherwise he's a well adjusted, happy little boy who i love from the bottom of my heart and soul.
This hasn't been going on for months, more like weeks now. But usually when i'm just a bit fed up i snap out of it within a few days. What is wrong with me?
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Depression or just stressed/ fed up?
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matana · 09/05/2012 08:30
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