I'll try not to let this get complicated.
My ex husband (of 12 years) and father of my 14 yr old son, had 4 children from his marriage before me. The eldest has just told me that she is under the psychiatrist and he is suggesting that he think she may be suffering from bi polar disorder.
I know that these things are often genetically linked and to be honest, her and her father are very similar in personality. I'm concerned about her but also about her father (my ex) and their relationship and obviously how this all impacts on our son.
My ex has always lurched from one crisis to another all his life, he is now 54 years old and is still living his life in an incredibly stressful way.
I used to find his bad moods almost intolerable and there was nothing I could seem to do to pull him out of them. There was always something or someone else to blame and at the time, it all seemed very feasible that it was the outside stresses that were causing him the problem and not the other way round. However, in the end, I realised that his bad moods (never violent or aggressive towards me or my son or his other kids) were damaging to my self esteem and to that of our son and I left him. That was 10 years ago. He has been an unreliable father to our son but I have made very great efforts to maintain the contact for our son.
He seems incapable of making sensible long term decisions and ends up in a mess financially and his love life is erratic and full of turmoil. He was in tears yesterday because his 3 other eldest kids have disowned him and he ended up rowing with his eldest daughter and his pregnant partner is already showing signs of being fed up with him. I feel so sorry for him and his daughter and end up trying to mediate and help them which they are grateful for, but I also know this is not my job anymore!
When my ex is happy, he will be very happy and positive, believing he can start up any sort of business and that he is better than other people. He can get "obsessed" with something, (which I had put down as a "bloke" thing) for example sitting on the pc til the early hours to finish a game or buying very expensive entertainment systems that take over the whole house.
Bearing in mind the possible diagnosis for his daughter, is it possible that at 54 yrs old he could be undiagnosed bi polar? And if so, how could this affect our son?
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Could he have bi polar?
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multicolouredpen · 26/03/2012 14:21
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