Hi, (I'm not expecting anyone to read this as it is epic but I need to document how I feel today.)
I've had a 30 year battle with food and I want to get better and I don't want this to blight the rest of my life. I am 50.
I was a pretty teenager, never skinny but at 5' 8" since I was 11 years old (never grew any taller!) I was a size 12/14. Trouble was, my taller sister 5' 10" was a size 8 and inevetiably, comparisons were drawn. (She's no longer with us sadly.) Had a baby very young and then maintained at about size 16, 11 stone. Because of my height, I believe (although my memory is skewed) that I probably looked OK. Met a couple of friends in my late teens and early twenties that were weight obsessive and I think at this age, I was very easily influenced and I began to see myself as entirely different. Huge in fact. One friend I met when I had my second child and I remember her talking about her upper arms and wobbling them about. I thought, goodness, I must look gross. (I was actually just over 11 stone post pregnancy, 20 years old and I'm certain now that I didn't have huge arms - but at the time, I took on board her issues about her own body and absorbed them as mine also.)
Gained a stone a year throughout my twenties until I reached about 16 stone. Then gained another 4 in my thirties. A bad relationship ended and I managed to lose 3 - 4 stone and I have struggled to keep my weight at around 16 stones for the last 10 years but within this last 10 year period, I have been higher than 18 when going through an operation and also a period of depression. The lowest I have been is 15.5 stone last year. Currently struggling at 16 10. I've put a lot of stuff about numbers here, probably the accountant in me and actually, they probably don't mean much apart from the fact that my bad relationship with food has lasted all my adult life and it's making me unhappy.
Today, I have not gone to work. I've got an op booked to get my gall bladder removed next week and am supposed to be following a low fat diet. I ate chinese food last night knowing that I would be ill. I went to bed absolutely stuffed full of food and I got up at midnight, heated more chinese up, ate it and couldn't go to work this morning because an attack of biliary colic. (Very painful for anyone that doesn't know what it is but it is related to the gall bladder problem.) But I knew it would happen. I was in hospital a few weekends ago because of this. This behaviour is a form of self harm and I need to get to the bottom of it.
So, not sure whether I go to the GP and ask for a referral or whether I find a counsellor myself. I'm scared, or is it resistant? Food has been an emotional crutch all my life but I have wept almost every day since Christmas and I can feel this problem escalating to match the increasing numbers on the scales. What I do know is that I need help.
I have no issue acknowledging a mental illness. Depression has also been a bit of a constant companion throughout my life although I have never taken medication but have put myself through counselling a few years back. My "issues" have not held me back professionally and I have had a reasonably good life albeit by taking a difficult route. My "issues"have effected relationships though.
That's it really, "feedbackforfree" has bared her soul today and taken an important decision to get some help.
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Eating Disorder - have to face up to this and ask for some help
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feedbackforfree · 21/02/2012 13:31
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