NC for this. Apologies in advance for the length.
I am currently considering going to my GP to discuss ADs, but am really unsure. The facts:
- Three DCs, eldest 5, youngest 18mths, all pretty needy and dependent (normal I know)
- Recently been made redundant, but there is potentially stuff in the pipeline, plus I do some self-employed working from home stuff. Money is ok, that's more of a self-esteem issue.
- No family support, used to have a childminder but she has recently taken on a salaried job so at the moment come January I will only have one morning of childcare for DC3 - DC1 is at school all day, DC2 just mornings. DC3 will be able to go to playgroup in April but only mornings. I have applied for a job which is only one day a week, but 9-3 and I'm thinking I just won't be able to get the childcare for it. Yes there are other childminders in the local area (village) but one has reduced her hours, one is giving me that one morning, so that's it.
- DH is great but works full-time.
- I hurt a tendon back in May and even though it's better it's still quite sore, so impact exercise is out. I'm at least 1.5 stone overweight.
I don't feel depressed all the time, or even a lot of the time - but sometimes, at least once a week, I feel like I can't cope with the DCs. I think I shout at them too much. I find myself snapping at quite small things. The idea of having only one morning of childcare for DC3 and having to find stuff to do for the other four days does make me feel rather anxious. And she's a really easy baby.
I went and looked at the mood gym website and filled in the depression quiz and it told me I was in the 'high to very high range' and to see my GP. Which just made me feel really shit.
DC1 was horrible today and I cried in the car (DCs couldn't tell) and stuck a film on so I didn't shout at them more this afternoon. But then as soon as they've gone to bed I feel my mood lifting, and now I'm having a little chuckle at the festive Google home page.
So I just don't know. Would antidepressants help in this kind of 'sometimes, sometimes not' situation?? Or, as I suspect, is this just a perfectly normal response to the situation of having small children?
Thanks if you've manged to read this far.