I am very very low at the moment.
My relationship with DH is not solid right now - we are having couple therapy. Both of us had emotionally abusive, selfish parents and this has led to both of us having trouble knowing how to conduct a healthy relationship. We have been together over 10 years and things have always been turbulent.
My parents were worse than DH's and were physically abusive too. As a teenager I had a small and short-lived breakdown after something traumatic. Things got quickly better when I confronted something.
However since then I feel I have been depressed on and off throughout my life. I have certain times when it's been v bad. I get terrible PMS, about 50% of the time I feel suicidal for one day during my period (usually right after my period has ended to be specific), although I have realised this now and can ride it out. It's odd, because it's not connected with me feeling bad about things generally - my life could be going well but that v low day still happens. Conversely, my life could be going shit and I don't get that menstrual low.
About 8 years ago after a particularly bad bout of PMS that led to me taking an overdose of paracetomol - not enough to have my stomach pumped but more than recommended - my GP prescribed ADs. I had a terrible time adjusting to them, had big rages. But while on them, I think I felt pretty sorted. I lost weight. I stopped biting my nails. But I came off them after 8 months as that was the plan. Weight went back on. Started biting my nails again.
I had terrible births with my 2 children. I had a very low period when pregnant with one of them. My new GP thinks I probably had undiagnosed PND after the first.
I have trucked along for years. Always with highs and lows. I am quite highly strung I guess, a very emotional person, and feel a lot of rage.
But right now I am losing it. I am very overweight, which is exacerbating pre-existing health conditions I have. I need to lose weight but food is my comfort. I feel so sad at the moment. I am self-employed and have to motivate myself to work but am so not motivated at the moment. I can't get round to showering until hours after waking up. Ditto food. I can't engage with my children at the moment. Leaving the house is a massive step. I can't sleep. I'm going to sleep v v late.
The latest trigger has been an issue with a friend who has blanked me. I seem to have difficulty in maintaining good friendships. I feel like a complete screwup. I wake up every morning and tell myself how shit I am compared to other people, and how they have many more close friends than me.
I have had lots of therapy in the past, which helped, but I feel terrible at the moment. I am seriously wondering if ADs are the answer. Last time I had therapy on the NHS, it was group and i had a psych evaluation first. He felt I was borderline depressed and didn't think I needed ADs. That was 4 years ago though. I can't afford individual therapy at the moment because of paying for couples therapy.
I told one friend today how bad I felt, hoping she would come round to see me, but she hasn't. I feel let down, and am not sure if that's unreasonable.
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supercal · 08/08/2011 14:10
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