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social anxiety ?

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Ineedmetime · 13/07/2011 22:49

does anyone else feel like they don't want to go out on their own with their toddler ? or am I just being silly? I feel like when she has a tantrum everyone is watching me to see how I cope and I feel so embarassed do other mums feel the same?

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allegrageller · 13/07/2011 23:12

you're not alone :(

Mine are older now but I often don't want to go out with them both as they quibble, fight and can end up out of control!

I remember the headshaking and tutting I used to receive when they were younger.

You need to try to think yourself into a thick skin (it isn't easy)...and remember that those who are judging you are saying everything about themselves and their intolerance, and nothing about you or your perfectly normal toddler.

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Ineedmetime · 14/07/2011 09:40

Thanks for your reply, I'm glad I'm not the only one to feel like this, I feel like I don't even want to go to toddler groups but I think thats more about me not knowing what to say to people( how to start conversations) than just about my dd throwing tantrums. I used to be quite shy but I try not to be now

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allegrageller · 14/07/2011 09:43

toddler groups are a nightmare!!

I think we have to take our phobias in hand every day. Get out at least once somewhere where the dcs will HAVE to be viewed by the public :-D

the thing to remember is, your toddler is a person with specific needs who shouldn't be banned from public view just because certain intolerant people would prefer it.

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Ineedmetime · 14/07/2011 09:55

Thanks, so releived that someone else doesn't like toddler groups! If i do go to them I find I sit there feeling really awkward and a lot of the other mums seem to talk amongst themselves so I feel like the odd one out.
I think I will have to push myself to get out of the house more even if its just to walk round the block.( I think I could manage that to start with)

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allegrageller · 14/07/2011 17:54

yeah avoid toddler groups you don't need them!1

It is hard to meet other parents though and not feel horribly isolated.

Nursery helps with that. Can you afford for h im to go yet?

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Ineedmetime · 14/07/2011 22:51

I don't know how much they cost but I would think they are not cheap. I was thinking about having a look in september as we are now near the school summer hols. also when dd is 3 years old she would get free nursery place or have I got that wrong? do they already need to be at a nursery to get the free place? ?
it is hard to make new friends though I find,especially when you are not good at the whole social thing or am i alone in thinking that