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Do you ever feel like you are just flawed?

(13 Posts)
iMemoo Tue 14-Jun-11 11:16:51

and that all the drugs and therapy are a waste of time because there is something fundamentally wrong with you that is unfixable?

BeckyBendyLegs Tue 14-Jun-11 13:08:31

I've always felt flawed in some way - labelled as sensative, highly strung, emotional etc. I've just accepted it as part of my life, I'm just learning how to better deal with these aspects of myself (or trying to at least). But don't you ever wish you were different? I always wish I was more like my DH who breezes through life and takes every little blip as it comes, deals with it, moves on.

madmouse Tue 14-Jun-11 13:55:30

I believe no one is unfixable. Not even me. Or you for that matter Memoo <stern wagging finger>

Becky those are some of your character traits - they are balanced by your creativity for example, and maybe even linked to it. Very laidback people can be annoying as they never get things done. Your character traits are no better or worse than those of others.

GetDownYouWillFall Tue 14-Jun-11 16:19:19

Everyone has weaknesses, but everyone also has gifts and abilities unique to them. I think feeling fundamentally flawed comes as part of the depression. It robs you of your ability to see your good points, and exaggerates everything that is crap and "wrong" about you.

How are you doing memoo? It's been such a long hard slog for you, hasn't it.

iMemoo Tue 14-Jun-11 19:44:46

It has been a long slog. It was last summer when I was hospitalised and nearly a year on I often feel like I've got nowhere. That's why I've started feeling like maybe I'm not curable. Maybe this is as good as it's going to get.

GetDownYouWillFall Tue 14-Jun-11 20:40:22

But you haven't felt like this your whole life have you?

Chocattack Tue 14-Jun-11 22:17:51

Ever since I can remember I've always felt like that even when I wasn't depressed. I'm with Becky. I find it hard not being able to breeze through life even though I don't really have any real reasons that should prevent me from doing so. So yep I'm definitely flawed sad.

quiddity Tue 14-Jun-11 23:25:21

I've felt like that my whole life too, or as far back as I can remember, anyway. Have been on and off ADs, gone for therapy intermittently for nearly 20 years and am not sure that any of it has really helped. Starting to feel it's too late now even if I could have been fixed earlier.

midnightservant Tue 14-Jun-11 23:28:54

I sort of feel like this. But at the ripe old age of 58 I have decided that I fit a possibile diagnosis of Aspergers and inattentive ADHD. I have stopped trying to fix myself, and am attempting to work with the strengths and weaknesses I have. Still seems to be a long slow process though!

Life has always been a bit of a struggle, and somewhat chaotic. But looking back I've done better than I thought I was doing at the time.

midnightservant Tue 14-Jun-11 23:29:47

But I do take seroxat - it works for me.

MrsBonkers Sat 18-Jun-11 21:30:00

Yep, feel like this is just me and I'll never be 'better'. Apparently that's one of the symptoms though isn't it, the lack of hope?
Wish I had some answers for us both.

Awomancalledhorse Sat 18-Jun-11 23:34:33

I feel like a twat most of the time. I hate admitting I have a flaw, and I hate having to go to the Dr's & talk about it because it makes me feel like a mental bi-polar person, when I just feel like 'me'.
Last time I went to GP's (to get booked in with midwife!), GP was surprised that I had never been sectioned nor do I have a psychatrist.
I guess I'd rather just deal with this alone, then have someone confirm I'm flawed!

adewonder Sun 19-Jun-11 21:04:51

I don't see myself as flawed when I'm having good days..more that everyone has differences, I have bpd, some people have one leg, or autism, or a wonky eye etc. It's one of my indicators that I'm getting down when I think about there being something wrong with me. Mental health is a spectrum which everyone moves up and down through their lives. I tend to view people that are consistently upbeat as a bit suspicious, far more normal to me for people to be at least a bit bonkers.

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