I am 33 weeks pregnant. I recently had to dismiss my nanny and am coming to the end of the 2 weeks of emergency childcare which were workable. Things become a lot more complicated from next week when I have to juggle school runs (more than doubling the walking I have to do) and picking up hours at home in the evenings to make up for those I can't do while I'm in the office. Thinking rationally, I don't actually believe that this is going to work, despite help from DH where he is able to (he has a high pressure job and sometimes works out of town/country). I don't think I will get to work on time to do the shortened hours I have suggested (I am late to and from wok at the moment because of the walking I need to do) and I am too tired to pick up any work from home once DDs are in bed. This is a very late night for me, simply because I am trying to explore my options.
I have a medical problem due to the nature of which may (I really have no idea) have some effect on the baby. I haven't been able to seek medical attention for in the past 3 weeks because given the way the next 3 weeks will pan out, I haven't felt comfortable taking more time off work. I do work part time (3.5 days) but the remaining time has been taken up with religious commitments, medical appointments for DD1 and upcoming antenatal appointments (where I hope to solve the medical issue I am worried about - if a little late in the day). I am also just generally stressed because of the juggling at this stage of my pregnancy and because other hurdles keep constantly coming up.
I did ask my line manager if it was feasible for me to take maternity leave 3 weeks early, the 3 weeks coming up which I just don't believe are manageable physically, never mind stress wise. Her response was that my resource is needed until I was due to finish, hence my ridiculous plan to overdo things which really will not work/will end up with me being signed off for stress at the very least.
I have asked HR for a meeting, but would like to be prepared with solutions rather than problems. Am I entitled to start my leave early or will I just need to struggle through the next 3 weeks? Is my employer required to help me in any way other than providing flexible working?
I genuinely want to return to my job next year and don't want to appear unhelpful, lacking in commitment etc, but if I'd foreseen half of these problems, of course I would have planned in leave sooner...
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Urgently need to find a way to start maternity leave early - what are my options?
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pecanpie · 04/10/2011 23:00
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