Dm was starting to get used to the home about 6 weeks in, was confused but fairly cheerful and liked some of the carers. But on Saturday night she collapsed and was sent to hospital where a CT scan showed a massive bleed in her brain. She didn't, and will not regain consciousness. She's just being kept comfortable in hospital while we wait for the end.
The first night I stayed next to her bed hoping to be there when she died, but realised after that it could be days or even more than a week. So all I can do is visit regularly and try to carry on as normal in between. It's horrible. The hospital staff have been very kind though.
I just wanted to let that out. I'm playing it down to my teens. They know she's in hospital but think it's just more of the usual. No need to make them suffer too until it's over.
Elderly parents
Dm near the end.
ZaZathecat · 06/02/2017 17:04
You are walking a difficult path Zara, and you have my sympathies.
I walked the same path with both my parents and it is a hard road.
However, if your DC's are close to their Grandmother, then it might be better for them to be prepared for her loss, than for it to come as a shock. Maybe telling them she is very poorly and she unlikely to get better would be kinder in the long run. Also, in future they might wonder why you didn't give them a chance to say goodbye. This is meant kindly, and you will know best what to do with your own children, than a random internet stranger.
Have you considered your dc may wish to have the chance to say goodbye? Keeping them in the dark is taking away their right to choose surely! In the long run they may accept her passing that bit easier if they get the chance to tell her they love her.
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