My dc's 'good' state primary school attracts a lot of middle class families - more so each year. The school is located in a part of London which is far from posh. This school and its surrounding streets form a small middle class enclave.
I would say the school is encouraging this aspirational trend with a stricter uniform code, more extra curricular music activities and more upmarket social events for parents etc.
According to my friend, who is on lots of school committees and knows many parents, there's an unbelievable amount of social engineering and snobbery involved in encouraging the 'right' friendships between children there. Parents are keen to socialise with the 'right' families, so children only tend to get invited to homes when the parents are friends (or would-be friends) with each other.
I think she is being bitter and twisted. Wiothout going into details, I know not she has some enemies at the school and is not as popular as she used to be.
I like to think that most parents are led by their children as to who they make friends with. What sort of family the child comes from is a secondary consideration.
But I am not so sure. I have seen how some parents are sucked up to while others are pushed out. And I think there is definitely some snobbery at the school - a minor example of this - we recently swapped our car for a much better one which I used for the school run. A boy in my daughter's class asked her what her father did for a living as his parents wanted to know.
So, is my friend right? Do you think social networking between parents is the real driving force behind many playdate invites? Is this your experience at your primary school?
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Parents at school using playdates to network with other parents. I am told it's rife - but I think not!
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reallyandtruly · 05/08/2008 08:54
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