I was just wondering what others do at Christmas, with regards to where children spend their time, when separated. Last year (the first Christmas since we separated) I invited STBXH over on Christmas eve for tea, and then to spend Christmas and Boxing days with us, but I don't want to do that this year. Things are a bit strained between us for various reasons, although we don't argue or anything, but I certainly don't want to have him here for the length of time I did last year.
Our kids are a bit older (11 and 13), and did think about asking them what they want to do, but actually I don't think I want to give them that responsibility, because it could make them feel like they were choosing between us.
Do you do part day with one parent and part day with the other, or does the non-resident parent visit for a couple of hours to open presents, or do you alternate? I'm not sure what the best thing is to do for the kids. He only sees the kids once a week, and I don't think he'd be that bothered about not seeing them on Christmas day, so I'm not worried about upsetting him, but I obviously want to do the right thing for the kids.
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What do you do at Christmas?
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TheWaspsAreEverywhere · 24/10/2019 09:45
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