Me and my stbxp are splitting up which is a massive blessing in disguise. We have 1 child and he's already agreed that she will live with me (and he would have contact EO weekend when he has his son from his last relationship), I've always been her main carer and he often works away.
He put the initial deposit down to buy our house and has paid most of the mortgage. I earn considerably less so I have contributed towards other bills, food, childcare etc. We own the house 50:50 however he believes he should get his initial deposit back in full when sold. If I got my full 50% equity it would enable me to buy a small house in the area where we currently live, close to our daughter's school and friends. He is already in a fortunate position to buy something much easier than me due to savings and higher income. However when I've explained this he's calling me a 'gold digging b*tch' etc. Oh yes he's been emotionally abusive and controlling throughout our relationship. He's also telling me he's going to be as awkward as possible in order to drive up my legal bill. I'm not sure whether I should just give in and agree for him to have his deposit back to make this break up smoother, or to fight for a better life for myself and my DD. We are still living in our house for the time being, however we can move to my parents if things get unbearable, although that would be a massive pain due to distance from school and work.
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Not married but joint house and mortgage - should I get half?
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Taintedlady123 · 15/06/2016 21:36
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