OK...first need to say that I really despise him and really not jealous of her. At all. We have two sons who are 1 and 3. He sees them once a week overnight and is really a rubbish dad. Refuses to take them out, just sits around the house watching tv with them as he feels it is his duty to have them but not play with them or put any effort into it. He told me 2 months ago he was thinking of dating someone "seriously" and that the boys had met her once briefly. I said fine...but please could you let me know if it moves on to the stage where the boys spend lots of time with her.
Anyway...it transpires that she is there every time the boys visit and now one son has been bumped to sofa bed rather than sleeping in daddy's room which he finds uncomfortable. I found this out through my children and when I asked I was told it was none of my business. I agreed that who he dated was none of my business but said if this woman was going to be spending this much time around my kids I would like to meet her. I was called a psychotic bitch at this point and told to mind my own business. Is this an unreasonable request? I just want to know who is around my kids. She has no desire to have kids, is a party girl and as she lives most of the week an hour away I just feel that my kids are being ignored a bit. I want to know what sort of person she is.
I will admit I will be hugely upset if they get married but only in that she will then be their stepmother. He is so rubbish...it is only recently that he agreed to have them at all. I am a blubbering mess and I don't even kniw why I posted this I just feel like I am losing it.
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turtle23 · 01/08/2011 09:05
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