a)...you find pregnacare/pg tests in the cupboard that are out of date? b)...six couples you know have married and had babies in the time you've been ttc? c)...two different friends who started ttc at the same time or after you have had their first babies and are announcing their second pgs? d)...all of the above
e)...all of the above, plus the phrase from said couples in point (c) "just relax and it'll happen, thats what we did" makes you want to scream and shout and stamp your feet. But you don't. You just smile sweetly and go out to buy yetanother 'Congratulations, you've had a baby' card....
I'm glad about that nomore and sadly it's a true story. Along with another friend who helpfully suggested I might have more success if I tried bd'ing on day 14 of my cycle. It had worked for her sister apparently!!
I replied that would be nice but I have a 45 day irregular cycle and I don't ovulate and dp's sperm is f**ked. To which she replied "well it worked for my sister, and they had been trying ages, it was at least 8 months I think, it's worth a try!" Ahhhggghh
How are you anyway Nomore I haven't spoken to you for ages. I've been keeping of the ttc threads, it's too painfull. I've given up ttc normally now and i'm due to have IVF in the next couple of months Though I'm not excited because I really don't think it will ever happen.
I'm good (generally at least - having a bad day today) tried IVF but sadly it didn't work for us. Trying to save for another go but have so far managed to save ~£500 (of £4000) so it's still a long way off I've got another one...when you hear the news about teenage pg rate rising and think "lucky so-and-so's" or alternatively think "but making a baby's so hard how many more are having unprotected sex??"
Sorry to hear that nomore unfortunatly we can't afford it either and our old NHS does no assisted conception what so ever, and the new one has a three year wait.
So I am sad to say this as I know it may help someone else, but I have been forced into donating my eggs as that is the only way we can afford it which makes me very and very
Anyway back to the thread Another one is when you've exhausted all the anecdotal things that will get you pregnant
1. Have a hsg e-ray (clears your tubes) No luck 2. Have a holiday (relax and it will happen) Nope 3.Start clomid (miracle drug) No success 4.Stop trying (thats when it always happens) No luck 5. Start looking into IVF (everyone always gets pregnant before it starts apparently) Again no...can you see a pattern here? 6. Buy a puppy. Just have done and i'll keep you posted
7. Feel sorry for yourself over the amount of time you spent gathering this anecdotal infomation from old threads, friends, tv shows etc
Well, Iwish I hate to say it as I was also a desperate TTCer but we got a kitten and lo and behold, a few weeks later, I got my much longed for BFP even though I only ovulated twice in a year! Now I know this is a complete coincidence but, another MNer fell preg after getting her kitten too. Of course, don't read too much into it
Thats another one you know you've been ttc to long when...
You no longer have a sex life because- A.You've been TTC for so long you killed it and B. If you actually do it, you still spend the next 2 weeks thinking, do I feel sick? What was that twinge? Maybe I am. But you never are, and it drives me insane.
So my theory is no sex, no disapointment. Poor Dp.
Surely you know you've been TTC for too long when your DH suggests that the amount of gymnastics training you've been putting in, desperately trying to get your bum higher than your head after each bout of nookie, that you should be in Beijing this week .
1wish A friend of my sisters has donated her eggs too (I'm pretty sure it was for financial reasons) - I'm not sure I could do it if I knew the other person had got pg and I hadn't (how selfish am I? ) - I'm in awe of those who can do that. I have been known to tell friends to "get on with having children sooner rather than later" too! Liking the kitten theory - though not too sure what DH or my two existing cats would make of it!
and when asked to fill in a form about how long you've been ttc you tick the 18-24 months because you think "it's been 2 1/2 years hasn't it? - no that seems too long - must be only 1 1/2" Then you tell DH and he says 'no it has been 2 1/2 years'
It gets worse nomore when you actually start to lie,and shorten the length of time you've been ttc on forms, so that they don't think you're a complete jaffa.
Had to do this recently with the egg donation thing, I put two years but actually it's more like four
And I'm not happy about that situation you described either, but what can I do. It makes me feel like i'm in one of those countries where people are forced to sell a kidney or something for money. (Though obviously not as bad, but a similiar principle)