Emmsys Weebles - moving to the Greenhouse for spring and summer!(997 Posts)
Onwards and upwards lovelies... Bfp's, bumps, babies and young graduates, growing nicely back in the warmth of the greenhouse...
I made us a shiny new thread
mls you're supermum!
moon it's hard to believe but you will long for his tiny newness again in just a few months' time.. but yep it is so hard at the start when they are so demanding. He will start to feed for shorter lengths of time, honest! And sleep will come too.. if he needs changing/settling at night ask dh to do that & you just do the feeds if you need to sleep. Also second getting a sling.. both of mine loved the Close sling as babies it would send them straight to sleep. Is there a sling library near you rather than buying one?
It was bad news for my friend today btw, no heartbeat and a heartless doctor apparently
Awww moon massive hugs to you. Yes it is bloody hard in the beginning. Have you tried fenugreek? Its fantastic for upping your milk supply. Even if you have a good supply it's great if you want to express.
Secondly you must buy a baby sling. I wouldn't have got through the baby stage without one. I had this one http://www.lifftslings.com/
It allows you to do normal things like make a sandwich or have a poo with your baby sleeping peacefully wrapped around your body! Also you can transfer the baby into his Moses basket still in the sling.
Thirdly things usually get a bit easier at the three month mark & then the six month mark.
Lastly, please be kind to yourself. You are doing a fantastic job. Us mummies who have lost babies are at a higher risk of pnd as we have higher expectations of motherhood once our longed-for babies finally arrive.
Sorry if I've repeated what anyone else has said but I'm having to skim-read as dd2 has tonsillitis & is now on steroids for a bad chest, dh is in France this week & I'm operating on next to no sleep!
Hi Moon. Bless you, my lovely. I remember those days really clearly. Blue calls it being in the trenches and I think she's right.
I promise you it will either get easier or you'll get better at dealing with it!
You've clearly doing a great job as your wee man is putting on weight so well. Give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done rather than berating yourself.
I know it feels like all you are doing is feeding right now but he will get quicker and go longer between feeds. I'm not sure how strongly you feel about feeding yourself. It was really important to me but I would have gladly given the occasional bottle of formula if DD2 would have taken one. The fact that you have him taking a bottle of expressed milk is great. Expressing is a total faff isn't it? (And I threw litres of the stuff away trying to get her to use a bottle -sob!) I also remember thinking I'd never make it to 3 weeks and I did 13.5 months!
Just do what feels right for you as a family. There's no right or wrong way to be a mum. Every child is different and you know him best. I would say that a few moments of crying won't do him any harm though and you don't have to jump out the shower the moment he starts to grizzle. Try a sling or a vibrating bouncy chair for a bit of respite.
DD2 was an awful sleeper as a baby. She liked her pram though and when I got to breaking point DH would walk her for hours to allow me to rest. Enlist any family member who is willing to do that!
Btw she is a great sleeper now!
Don't worry about going back to work. The thing that has struck me most about being a mum is what you manage to cope with.
Finally take a deep breath and try to enjoy this time. This is the most intense relationship you will ever have in your life but it will pass in the blink of an eye. I'd love to be able to go back in time to feeding my girls in the silence of the night when it feels like the rest of the world is sleeping and only the two of you matter. (Only for half an hour or so tho)
Be kind to yourself.
Hi Moon yes, it does get easier and yes, you will get your life back and no you are most certainly not doing a crap job - based on the fact that your job is to grow that tiny, little baby into a big boy and he's put on a whole pound this week.
It's really hard when they are tiny as you and your dh feel like you are living separate lives - I clearly remember it with all mine that you end up writing off the first three to 5 months. I also remember choosing to ignore the books pretty quickly - you know all those booked that said to get the baby to sleep in the evening, you need to do evening feeds in a quiet dark room? yeah, right - even with my first, we were back downstairs really quickly so that I saw dh.
I can't give much advice on breastfeeding as I didn't do it for very long as mine didn't get enough milk from me but I know there are plenty on here who can give advice and am sure they will be along soon.
What I can give advice on is to do what it takes to get through this - with DD1, at 1 month we moved from breast to bottle and she became a different baby, slept well, got into a lovely routine and I loved my mat leave. With DS, he settled during the evenings really well but woke early and would not get into any sort of routine - for the first month, he pretty much slept with us and we shared the morning chorus - I went back to work when he was 5 months and was pretty knackered as he always woke before 5, often much earlier. I remember lots of going to bed early in evenings with him. With DD2, well. we co slept for the first 3 months at least - I didn't even share a room with DH until she was at least 6 months as we needed sleep and we all slept better that way. I found my sling invaluable as again, routine was not her thing.
So, you know your baby best and you also know yourself - could you got to bed really early some evenings? I know it will feel like you get even less time with DH but a couple of good nights sleep will make you feel much better. Go with the flow, expect to be tired at work - also expect for it to feel much less important and congrats on the weightloss Stop beating yourself up - you're a great mum, doing a great job and you just need to believe it
Quick flying visit while the little monkey sleeps!
This having a baby thing is bloody hard work isn't it?! I mean I knew it wouldn't be easy but omg! I am exhausted. He doesn't seem to like sleeping much, sometimes he'll sleep a few hours at night, sometimes not, he feeds a l l the time and it makes it difficult to do anything else but feed him. Its a challenge to even get myself showered and dressed before he wants more. I'm expressing as much as I can so that dh can help out, but there's only so much I can express before he's hungry again. I can see why people give up breastfeeding, I've been tempted a few times. Any advice?
I need to give my notice to go back to work soon, I don't know on earth I will manage. How do you go to work when you've had no sleep and when the little one needs constant feeding? Everyone says sleep when baby sleeps - what if he doesn't?!
Thankfully dh has been amazing, he's been doing all the housework and cooking, feeding j with a bottle when he can (when I've had some time to express!) but I cant help feeling a bit deflated. I miss our time together. I wouldn't change anything for the world, but I didn't realise how all encompassing it would be and how you don't get 2 minutes to yourself. Everyone says it gets easier, but does it, and really? I feel like I'm doing a crap job where everyone else seems to manage it so well.
On the plus side, j put on nearly a whole pound in one week, little chunkster! Its good for me too as I have lost 2 stone already since the birth without even trying, and I'm eating loads more than usual.
Sorry for no personals, will try to get back soon. How do you lot manage it??
Big waves to you all.
Aah enjoy your half term neeko! Lovely.
curly no news yet, she goes for another scan tues. They've said baby could be ok but as it hadn't grown much there could be chromosomal issues further down the line still.. all so confusing, it's so hard to tell much in these early weeks anyway so I do hope it all turns out ok, will let you know
4ever oh bless summer. One of my friends is having real trouble with hers at school, she hasn't been able to leave him for more than 1 hour there yet (in a month) because he's just too upset so hard.. but I'm sure they'll get there. Lol at S not wanting to do 'mat time' it's so hard for them when they just love to run around being active.
Right better get dressed & start the day..am hoping today is the day dh is finishing my wardrobe!!
Ps we need a new thread!
Are you drunk or just skint after handing round all that alcohol curly?
The promotion will be over by July as I'm covering a maternity leave. I'll be skipping into school next session!
4ever sounds like you've had a tough few weeks. Hope it settles soon.
Half term here. Happy weekends everyone.
Ah sure I may as well have one myself
You might need one of these too lovely lady
Just the one though
Yayyyyyyy fantastic news mls you must be still grinning away. What a relief. Well done brave lady xxx
Big waves to rumours and 4ever and shroom
Any news on your friend cloud? having been through it, it's hard not to think the worst but then sometimes it turns out well like rumours pregnancy with ds2 or barbie with dd even with a nerve wracking start
neeko are you stopping work altogether in July or just for the summer? sorry I am so behind on emmsy news
Quick pass through, have to say HUGE congratulations to Mls!!! Bet you are overwhelmingly relieved! Think you've been an amazingly brave super trooper x
Moon l o v e d reading your birth story! A sentance I'm still thrilled to be writing! Sounded like you were very brave, and it was very painful the way he was born, stressful early days too, but bet you're an old hand now and you and your boy have found a lovely little routine?
Shroom all I can say is - 24 weeks?!?! Fantastic amazingly brilliant stuff my lovely!
Big waves and apologies for lack of personals, had to post when saw the news! Am BF my only 10mins in the day I seem to sit still! Summer started school last week, but knew my whirlwind girl wasn't a fan of 'mat time' from playgroup, but getting there slowly, and still tears every time i leave her so on early pick ups, though she's apparently fine after a few mins... Poor sausage had so much to adjust too, and is still suffering from this horrendous virus, been awful, Teddy got it too, both had conjunctivitis, streaming noses, terrible coughs, me too as well! Barely slept for 2 weeks!
mls that is amazing!! Congratulations! So pleased for you!
Yeah I did a 5 wk crochet course & absolutely loved it, can't wait to get started on lots of baby blankets & Christmas decorations now! No I've purposely not joined pinterest as I know I'll just get forever stuck in a black hole of internet..I'm already on it way too much! I am sorely tempted though for Xmas craft ideas so let me know of any good ones you find
Another big yay for MLS!!!
Shroom Glad all is "bumping" along nicely for you. Has the morning sickness gone now?
Hi Curly I'm ok, thanks. Still struggling with the job and averaging about a 50 hour week which is a third more than my contract but it won't beat me and by July it will be all over with another life lesson learned.
What's new with you?
So thrilled for you mls, hope you enjoyed your celebrating this evening! you must be SO relieved! Xxx
Too tired & drunk to write anything else!!
Oh mls I really hope you had good news this afternoon. I have had everything crossed for you! If/when you feel up to it please let us know how you got on, you know we are here for you every step of the way xxx
Cloud - just seen you've done a crochet course, fantastic! Are you on Pinterest?
Lol! That was me making a quick exit to bury my head in the sand!!
Hello lovely ladies
Shroom yay for 24 weeks, you must be getting quite big now?
Moon lovely birth story, except for the bit about him coming out with his arm up, eeeeeaaaaawww. No wonder you needed so many stitches. Are you healing up now?
Thanks everyone for asking about me. I have my results appt this afternoon. <<runs off to bury head in sand>>
Ah thanks lovely ladies. It was possibly slightly better news today in that they did see a heartbeat but said baby hasn't grown as it should have yet.. she has to go again next wk, again echoing the exact process of my mmc! But she sounded a lot stronger on the phone today so I'm pleased about that, shes been a wreck all week.
Yes mls how are you lady? I've just finished my crochet course tonight & so excited by the prospect of all the stuff I can make!
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