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Anyone else want to join me in getting ready for ivf in 2013? Good egg buddies wanted!!!

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Karbea Mon 17-Dec-12 18:26:17


Dh and I have been trying for over 2 years and had one failed ivf (Icsi) attempt at the Argc last spring. We are going to go again in the new year.

I wondered if anyone else was planning to do the same? And whether anyone fancied joining me in 'princessing' (stolen from style & beauty smile ) for ivf?

I'm not sure what this means in terms of what I'll do, really hoping for some help in researching how to get the best eggs ever, and perhaps how to improve dh's little swimmers....

Anyone up for being a good egg buddy?

Northey Wed 19-Dec-12 23:42:23

We are at the Oxford Fertility Unit, which is part of the university research group, and have been given a massive wodge of info about current research projects we can opt into.

Karbea Thu 20-Dec-12 01:43:04

You do know professor w and mr t have history don't you? that would have been a dig directly at mr t.

Northey Thu 20-Dec-12 07:24:13

Who is mr t? <dim>

SweetieSnowball Thu 20-Dec-12 08:12:04

Please can I join as a lurker as I will be going through IVF early next year but with DE. We got the call earlier this week that we have been matched to a donor so will be starting as soon as I have completed a mock cycle to make sure my womb lining is ok etc.

I had IVF last year using my own eggs but had a very poor response and only produced a single egg on the highest dose of stimulation. Although everything went as it should and I had a d2 transfer it was BFN. That was our only NHS funded cycle so we are self funding now at a new clinic.

Don't worry I will be mentalling just the same as everyone else that all I am doing will increase the chances. Exciting times for all.

Karbea Thu 20-Dec-12 08:45:44

mr taranissi is the Argc.

Basically how I understand it, is that winston 'invented' ivf, he then went on to do loads of chat shows etc to talk about it. In the meantime taranissi and others continued (and still do) research ivf. This meant that they continued to improve. Winston got jealous of the success,
Winston did a whole panarama thing and took taranissi to court. Taranissi won.

Felixina Thu 20-Dec-12 08:58:24

Hi, I am 37 and have been TTC for 16 months. I have PCOS and have tried clomid but still no ovulation. My husband also has low sperm count & motility. I'm awaiting a laparoscopy (new years eve!) and then probably ICSI. We're with Bristol - am I right in thinking they only offer one cycle on the NHS?
In the meantime I've been losing weight - I was about 16st when started TTC and am now down to 12st, not yet a healthy BMI but a good start. It was a minor miracle when I stepped on the scale for my first appointment at the fertility clinic and my BMI was 29.9, the max they will allow.

I've cut down on caffeine and take folic acid and omega 3+6+9 but not the multivitamin as I was constantly getting sick in those - maybe coincidence but it stopped when I stopped taking them.

Here's to a good 2013!

EuroShagmore Thu 20-Dec-12 11:29:26

Flex vits make me nauseous if I take them on an empty stomach. With food, I find they are fine.

Englishsquirrel Thu 20-Dec-12 13:08:44

Hello everyone
This is my first ever post. I'm sorry if I'm not doing it right. Is it ok to join you please? I've got my first consultation for investigations at guys on the 2nd jan. only ever been to zita west for amh test before this.

I'm 42, TTC for just over 2 years, never been pregnant. I'm very nervous about the process and yesterday I found out that my brother and wife are pregnant with their 2nd. He told me in response to me finally telling him that we are starting the IVF investigations in the new year. Today I am so gutted and feel defeated and I haven't even started treatment. I feel so alone. My boyfriend doesn't understand why I can't enjoy being an aunty even though we haven't been blessed with a child of our own.

I don't know what to expect from the first consultation. I was excited to finally be going after a year of saving up the money for 1 round of treatment but now I seem to have lost all faith and am dreading Christmas with my over excited parents looking forward to their 2nd grandchild.

Any advice much appreciated. Thank you for reading my post.

Best wishes
Sharon x

ArielTheBahHumbugMermaid Thu 20-Dec-12 13:36:23

Hello Sharon. Er, would you rather be called Sharon or EnglishSquirrel?

Karbea Thu 20-Dec-12 13:51:01

Sharon, my thoughts are with you. It's just one of those things you have to get used to. That horrible stabbing feeling, no one only a few people really understand. Its pants!

Englishsquirrel Thu 20-Dec-12 14:51:37

Hello Ariel
I'm happy to be called Sharon but I hope that isn't confusing. I wasn't sure of the username vs real name etiquette when I signed up. I think I will change my nickname now that I'm chatting.
Thank you Karbea. I feel so mean because it's my little brother. Good to know its not just me.

ArielTheBahHumbugMermaid Thu 20-Dec-12 14:55:37

Don't worry about being jealous of siblings. When my sister and SIL told me they were pregnant again, I couldn't climb out of the pit of envy for days and days sad. It's normal.

Sharonbenn Thu 20-Dec-12 14:56:14

Hello again

Ok I've changed my nickname. It's less confusing and I feel more like me.

Sharon x

Sharonbenn Thu 20-Dec-12 14:57:49

Thank you Ariel. Just seen your reply. I feel like I will never recover. But I can see now that I will. X

SweetieSnowball Fri 21-Dec-12 09:39:50

has anyone seen the BBC Northern Ireland series Baby Makers? where they follow couples through IVF. I recorded them and watched first last night. it shows the emotional journey of treatment and impact on relationships. very interesting viewing, if a little raw!!

blondebaby111 Fri 21-Dec-12 10:35:52

Can I join you, just found out today that our first cycle of ivf has failed. I didn't get a proper bleed for weeks like I was supposed to so lived in hope it may have worked but not showing up on test. But sadly af arrived this morning. I look forward to having round two nxt year, good luck everyone, let's make 2013 our year to shine xx

Sharonbenn Fri 21-Dec-12 14:43:42

Blondebaby - I'm so sorry. I haven't had treatment yet so i havent experienced this but I really feel for you. I hope that you can rest over the holidays and have someone take care of you. Best wishes to you.

Sweetiesnowball - I haven't seen this programme. Is it on now on iplayer?

Merry Christmas to you all and here's to 2013.

Sharon x

resipsa Fri 21-Dec-12 15:35:51

Hi all. This seems like a thread with my name on it so can I join you? Like sharon I'm 42 and hoping to go for 1st cycle early in 2013 having finally persuaded DH. We'd previously said we'd never go down the IVF route but that was in the naive, pre-TTC days! I'm glad that he now gets how much it means to me and hope your BF gets there too, sharon and soon!
I feel an utter fool having left it so late. Why did I think I could defeat nature? But here we are and I have to give it a shot. TBH, the desire for kids didn't really hit until I was 38 which was probably too late anyway :-(
We're waiting for an appointment at Care in Manchester but after reading above, I wonder if we should try St Mary's instead? Anyone on here got experience of either or both?

Sharonbenn Fri 21-Dec-12 15:59:39

Don't be too hard on yourself Resipsa (how do I make names bold?) some people are just late starters. I didn't meet my BF til I was 39 and the clock has been ticking since day one but we were no where near ready then whatever 'ready' means. You are right we have to give it a shot and our best shot at that. I'm already alcohol free all year and even gave up my 1 espresso a day AND chocolate 2 months ago so I'm caffeine free also. We can all support each other and fingers crossed it isn't too late. My acupuncturist tells me that it isn't a matter of whether I will have a child but when and how. X

WinterSolstice Fri 21-Dec-12 17:11:07

I'd like to join if I may! I've already had one failed ivf in October, at oxford fertility unit, I think someone up thread mentioned it! I turned 40 in September so I was right on the cusp of getting my one free NHS go! They found a endometrioma cyst on my left ovary and I just had a lap performed last week to remove that, luckily they found no other signs of endometriosis so I feel all sparkly and new inside! We are looking to register with a new private clinic for ivf as soon as I've had my lap follow up in a couple of weeks!

Sharon I feel for you with your SIL's pregnancy announcement, we had the same not long after our failed ivf, with my SIL announcing their third child! It's been tough, hugs for you! By the way you use * before and after the word you want to make bold!

You're not a fool at all resipsa these things happen and you will get there!

resipsa Fri 21-Dec-12 19:27:10

Thanks you two. To avoid feeling like a fraud, I should say that we are trying for DC2. I have a DD (conceived naturally when I was 39) who turns 2 in Jan. Been trying for 2nd since 1st was about 6 months and time wise can't just wait to see what happens...

joycep Fri 21-Dec-12 21:24:50

i start ivf at the argc very shortly.. Just finished my monitoring cycle and i have been put on SP and will start next cycle [nervous]. May 2013 be a lucky year for everyone. and hi Karbea - that 's exactly how i understood the prof W v mr T situation.

Northey Fri 21-Dec-12 22:03:37

Cock, blondebaby, I'm incredibly sorry to hear your period turned up. How are you feeling now?

ArielTheBahHumbugMermaid Fri 21-Dec-12 22:20:26

This thread is cheering me as there are lots of fellow oldies on it grin

Northey Fri 21-Dec-12 22:50:15

Speak for yourself, crone. <checks own D.O.B.> Oh.

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