I'm pregnant with baby #2 and am umming and ahhing about my birth options.
My first baby was a rather uncharitable ten and a half pounds. I was in labour for over 70 hours, 40 of which were in the hospital (needed the synto drip, in the end and for anyone interested, it did not make contractions more painful).
I had asked for plenty of time in the second stage on my birth plan, which was honoured. I pushed for three hours without success. DH (who had a peak at the business end) said that baby was so far up, and not budging at all, that he KNEW this baby wasn't going to come out soon. The obstetrician eventually said it'd have to be forceps.
And so it was, which went fine. Ten and half pounds of baby was pulled from me, baby was fine (albeit a bit of grazing from the forceps and mahoose bruise on his arm where he presumably had got stuck) but the episiotomy scar healed without issue and sex was never painful afterwards. As a result of the forceps, I now have a bladder prolapse and very poor continence and a lousy sex life (it's a bit like being impotent, but as a woman).
I'm keen to hear from others who had large babies and forceps deliveries on how their second go went. The midwife reckons I would be unlikely to have two forceps deliveries (I am terrified of sustaining more damage down there than I already have - obstetricians only care as far as the birth - the aftermath for the woman seems not to be on their radar). Would I be better off insisting on a c-section if baby fails to make progress down the birth canal? Maybe I'm worrying for nothing and the next one will be easy delivery. The size of baby seems to be a genetic thing (from DH's side of the family) so I'm likely to have another bumper baby.
DH is very keen for me to have an elective c-section. I think he's still traumatised by it all. He witnessed the whole thing, whereas I was so delirious from sleep deprivation and exhaustion I'd have signed a form to say they could remove my head if it meant getting the baby out.
In short, I'm petrified I'm going to have another forceps delivery and my poor lady parts are going to be in tatters and I'll be as continent as the newborn.
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Big baby and forceps first time, but how was it second time around?
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learnasyougo · 18/01/2014 17:15
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